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Apologize to friend for faux pas

[(Anonymous)]

I was just thinking about this. When I was a teenager, I had a friend who was gay. He didn't want to tell this one girl in our group because she was religious, but I kind of... pressed him into it, because I knew she wouldn't care and I thought she should know.

We're still friends so clearly he never held it against me, but I feel really badly for pressuring him now. That was not at all my place and I should've known better, but I don't think I really... got it at the time. However, I'm not sure how to apologize? Should I just leave it? This would've been about thirteen years ago.


(Her reaction was what I thought it would be, BTW. She was religious but not homophobic. Same with me at the time.)

Re: Apologize to friend for faux pas

[(Anonymous)]

Those kind of things are kind of hard to bring up in any sort of organic way, so I usually don't.

Like my own rule in regards to being mad at people is if I don't bring it up - then at a certain point it is my own fault for being angry. And after time passes, I must get over it.

If 13 years have passed, he may have gotten over it or even forgotten it by now, so there'd be little point in going over it. I would hope since you are still friends that he realizes you have grown since then.

Like if it was something super horrible apologizing, even that late, might be nice. But I don't think this qualifies as something so horrible it must be brought up 13 years later. I would leave it. If it comes up maybe you can say something, but I wouldn't worry otherwise.

Re: Apologize to friend for faux pas

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - Thanks. Yeah, he also realized I was young (we were online friends, he was in his twenties at the time) and I think if he'd been that uncomfortable, he would've told me to drop it. I just squirm when I think about it now. :/

Re: Apologize to friend for faux pas

[(Anonymous)]

You could say something quite short like, "You know, when we were kids I think I pressured you to come out to [that girl] and I shouldn't have done that. I think part of me just wanted you to see that it wouldn't matter to your friends, but that wasn't my call to make and I just wanted to let you know I'm sorry."

It probably won't be a big deal, but I don't think you'd lose any friendship points for saying it now.