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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-03-05 12:28 pm

[ SECRET POST #3349 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3349 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2016-03-05 07:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Except asexuality is not the same thing as "loss of sex drive".

(Anonymous) 2016-03-05 09:40 pm (UTC)(link)
But I think it's still worth looking into, especially if you have anxiety and/or depression. I don't doubt that asexuality's a real identity, but that was the case for my apparent asexuality.

(Anonymous) 2016-03-06 12:06 am (UTC)(link)
nayrt, but I thought I was asexual for a long time and it turned out to be the side effect of depression/a psychosomatic reaction to the truly horrible worldview regarding sex I was taught growing up. It's possible to simply have a naturally low libido to the point where you don't really feel any desire for sex. It's also possible for low libido to be UN natural and the result of something being not quite in sync. Let us not get so infatuated with the mere idea of alternate sexualities that we forget about basic biology here. There's no reason to bother getting yourself "fixed" if you (general you) are happy having low to no libido, but for people who find their low or nonexistent libido a source of worry or stress or fear it may prevent them having the kind of relationships they want, it actually is worth going to the doctor and checking whether it's the result of some kind of imbalance or whatever.

(Anonymous) 2016-03-06 01:07 am (UTC)(link)
Asexuality isn't about libido, but attraction; I'm ace, and I have a stronger libido than most of my non-ace friends. I really agree that people with sexual dysfunctions should get it checked out, but asexuality is a different beast entirely. I don't have a problem getting off; I just don't feel any more turned on by any guy or gal than I do my own right hand.

ayrt

(Anonymous) 2016-03-06 01:42 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, and that was the same for me as well. I actively tried to feel sexually attracted to people and found I COULD NOT. I had a couple of crushes during this period and I found the thought of so much as kissing any of those people utterly unappealing and could not understand why anyone would want to kiss or do anything physical with anyone else. It seemed pointless and unpleasant to me. And I gained that ability back after therapy and time had helped me recover from my mental and emotional problems. It's certainly possible for someone to be asexual for no reason, but it is absolutely possible to be asexual because something isn't working right in your brain.

da

(Anonymous) 2016-03-06 02:55 am (UTC)(link)
Or with your body. I thought I was asexual for a long time and it turned out to be a hormone imbalance. Low libido/lack of a sex drive can be a symptom of a whole lot of legit health issues so it's worth getting it checked out just for that reason.