[ SECRET POST #3349 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3349 ⌋

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Early today, places to go!

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Comments

Re: What sexualities and gender identites do you believe exist?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, but I just don't see how "I don't identify with a gender stereotype so I must be a WHOLE NEW GENDER" is in any way an actual rejection of gender essentialism. If anything it's an acceptance of it, because that person is saying that in order to be the gender they were assigned at birth they would HAVE to fit into a specific mold and they don't, so SPARKLES AND NEW IMAGINARY GENDERS! Literally every person I have ever seen claim to be agender has talked about how they feel agender because they don't check off boxes a-b-c on the gender essentialism checklist. Which means they buy into it hook line and sinker, and are basing their identity off of it.

Re: What sexualities and gender identites do you believe exist?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, but I just don't see how "I don't identify with a gender stereotype so I must be a WHOLE NEW GENDER" is in any way an actual rejection of gender essentialism.

I'm not arguing that it is, though? Like, at all. Your argument is that people who claim to be agender are seeing the very essentialist way that gender is often represented, and rejecting gender because they mistakenly believe that's what gender is. And maybe that's why some people - such as yourself - believe(d) themselves to be agender.

But just because that was your experience doesn't mean that's what's going on with everyone who identifies as agender. It seems pretty close-minded to assume that everyone who identifies as agender has simply mistaken gender essentialist depictions of gender for What Gender Is and so rejects gender entirely.

What is so hard to believe about the idea that for some people, the gender mechanism (i.e. whatever happens in our brains that makes us feel that we are a woman or a man) just doesn't function?

And maybe every agender person you've come across has had a very gender essentialist (mis)understanding of gender, but that's certainly not been my experience.