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Re: Mourning

[ketita]

I think what's important is to allow yourself space to grieve. There's no "right" way to do it, and it doesn't necessarily matter why one thing speaks to you - if you want to light a candle, do it. It's an emotional experience, not an intellectual one.

I personally relate strongly to the way Jewish tradition processes grief (which, in part is because that's what I grew up in). The first week, the family sits together at home in mourning, and they are visited by family and friends, there's always food out, and the purpose is to remind them that they are not alone, but also allow space for grief. I remember when my great-uncle died, it was so emotional - one minute we'd all be laughing and telling stories, the next minute everybody would be crying.
Then after the week is over, there are other landmarks - the 30 days, when you go to the gravesite, some mourning customs are preserved throughout the whole year, and then there are yearly memorial days.
Also, our tradition is to put rocks on gravestones, rather than flowers, because rocks to not wither.