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⌈ Secret Post #433 ⌋

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...Okay, at this point I have to admit I'm feeling for you.

Anyway, if you honestly believe you are surrounded by bitches, leave. That isn't trying to be mean, but it does sound like you're unhappy over something you can control. I'm sorry people have been nasty towards you, and what you've told about sounds really gross overall. I hope that no matter what you do, things turn out well.

See, the problem is that I know what happens with people who leave the game. I have several people on my flist who are ex-players and NEVER GOT TALKED TO AGAIN by people they considered some of their best friends after quitting the game.

The thought of dropping might be a comfortable way out, but unfortunately I'm not sure I'm willing to give up the friendships I formed in the game... or to realize how flimsy they really are.

Well... that sucks. I don't have any happy solution. I hope that things wouldn't turn out like that, but things are often a lot nastier than they seem.

I would suggest a more private confrontation, but you've said that didn't work before. Maybe talk to people you're comfortable about these fears?

That's another problem - I'm not sure who to trust. Some people on my flist had conversations and emails they thought private copypasted to the people they were talking about by people they thought were true friends - it just happened again this week, and that's part of the reason why I was so *upset* when I replied for the first time. Bad timing, I guess.

Nevertheless, one person on my flist even got bullied out of the game entirely for a tiny remark about one player who happens to be attached to a lot of the "popular" groups. I may only be a tiny bit player with no real connections to anyone with "influence"... but exactly that makes me afraid. If worst came to worst, I would have no backing whatsoever, and players like me who *aren't* attached to many people have no way to defend themselves.

I'm already glad my cfud_concrit posts have so far never drawn any truly shitty commenters... but I have the slight suspicion this might change in the future, given that an intelligent person could put one and one together and guess who I am just by going through the player list. We'll see.

I'M LIKE HIJACKING YOUR THREADS to say about paragraph one: WORD FUCKING WORD. I've had this happen to me and it is not. Fun. It's almost like a trial and error process but... really until you "know"? it's probably easy to just watch what you say (in my case, I found them because it happened to them, too). And i'm so fucking sorry that happened to one of your friends. Although I HAVE been guilty in the past of doing this I don't anymore. :/ (or at least keep it restricted to only fandom/cracky stories or stuff). It's disgusting.

And I'm sorry what happened to your friend. Tell her that I'm sorry, and give her internet hugs? :/

Also, as a cfud_concrit mod if you EVER get a comment that you are uncomfortable with, or you suspect may have OOC bias behind, please tell me. I can at least freeze or screen the thread. You can even have a friend do it if you're not comfortable with approaching me yourself. We don't ever want anyone hurt in those posts. Also, if you're scared of getting any kind of retribution in it, you may want to hold off on posting, at least for a few weeks.

That's 20% of the reason why I quit IRC - I just didn't know what to say anymore, and having to watch every single word exhausted me more than playing did. And at that point it's just... shit and fail. Quitting IRC actually made me play more, so that's probably a good thing!

I will. I'm sure she'll be glad to hear at least someone feels sorry for the treatment she received.

Weeell. But if I suddenly stopped posting now when I posted nearly always before, wouldn't that make my identity even easier to guess? I'll just continue to post as before and if something happens, I'll take you up on your offer. I'm just hoping it'll never get to that point.

IRC can be exhausting. BUT WHAT MOMO SAID (edited for lol reading comprehension) sob. But it's GOOD you're playing more! ♥

No idea who she is, but I hope she doesn't feel too upset about it-- and maybe even might come back in the future (far future) to try again? D:?

Haha, that's true! Hopefully nothing comes out in the actual game over this and ESPECIALLY in cfud_concrit or I will cry emo tears. >O

Edited 2008-03-14 01:52 (UTC)

Just figuring out how it worked took me ages! Which probably just proves I'm not as intelligent or e-savvy as I thought I was! (l-lol moron)

I don't think she will. And even if she'd come to thinking about it again, I'd advise her to leave it be. I just don't want to have such bullshit happen to one of my best friends over *nothing* again. I dread to think what would've happened if I'd not been around, if she'd had no pre-CFUD-but-currently-CFUD friend at all.

I'll try to be subtle orz

---I FAIL AT REPLYING, SORRY.

Yeah it might be for the best, for them. [HUGS]

But whatever you decide, just try not to do anything you'll regret in a couple of months. Or to do something out of anger.

That's 20% of the reason why I quit IRC - I just didn't know what to say anymore, and having to watch every single word exhausted me more than playing did. And at that point it's just... shit and fail. Quitting IRC actually made me play more, so that's probably a good thing!

H-HAHA Y-YEAH, I'VE HAD THAT HAPPEN TOO AHH... I basically just. Restricted myself to talking privately with two people that I knew I could trust, and NEVER EVER SAYING ANYTHING BAD PUBLICLY. And worked my way out from there.

And I, personally, don't post to cfud_concrit at all, and I know several other people don't, either. I'm just not comfortable with it.

But that's not right either :/ I hope the two people you think you can trust are still around, if it comes to CFUD-specific retardism again!

I started posting there because I got no feedback whatsoever on my playing and feared I was going too far down suspending-your-disbelief route... then again, I was also deathly afraid beeeeecause one of my characters belonged to a semi-popular canon and insane fans might hit me. I'm still not sure what to think about the teeny-tiny amount of feedback I'm getting - good sign? Bad sign? Indifference? Hatred? orz

Maybe not, but that's the way society as a whole functions (it took me a while to realize this). Complaints in moderation are fine, but when you overdo it, it can alienate people (and yeah, those two are still around ♥).

My personal solution to that has been to just play for myself and my canonmates - everyone else is a nice bonus. And if someone who hasn't seen my char's canon has an objection to how I'm playing them, I'd be happy to discuss it with them, but I'm not gonna worry about an uninformed opinion (or. You know. One I can also easily refute).

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