[ SECRET POST #3435 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3435 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Why does everyone seem to be assuming that forgiving someone means maintaining a relationship with them? I've forgiven people I haven't spoken to in years for stuff they did a long time ago. I have no interest in rekindling any sort of relationship with them, I just didn't see the point in remaining angry over something that happened close to a decade ago.

[(Anonymous)]

Because when most people say "forgiveness" that's exactly what they mean. Everyone I have ever met who has talked about needing to forgive would say that if you cut someone off, you really haven't forgiven them even if you're not angry anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt but I would absolutely not agree that "most" people mean that. I forgive people who I genuinely think have wronged me, because I don't want to hold on to that anymore and I want to move past it, but that doesn't automatically mean these people are my best friends or even a part of my life anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

And literally everyone I have ever met in real life would say that's not "real" forgiveness.

[(Anonymous)]

I would like some hard data on that!

[diet_poison]

idk if you are the anon I replied to up there or not

but I think it's fair to point out that no, in fact, that's not the prevailing definition of "forgiveness". I have met far more people who don't include maintaining a relationship with someone in their definition of forgiveness.

[(Anonymous)]

Then you fortunately don't live in the same hellhole I do. Literally everyone I know offline requires maintaining the relationship as part of forgiveness. As in if you cut the person off, you really haven't forgiven them after all and you're being grudgey and horrible.

[diet_poison]

I'm not even sure what you want me to say to this. Yes? I acknowledge that I am very fortunate. I am simply pointing out that your experience, while terrible, is not the norm. Most people do not define "forgiveness" in that messed-up way.