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⌈ Secret Post #3439 ⌋

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[lupin sansei/lupin the third]

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[Pokemon]

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[Lord of the Rings]

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[Animorphs]

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[Dark Tower]

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08. [SPOILERS for Shin Megami Tensei IV]

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09. [WARNING for discussion of rape]

[Arthur Conan Doyle, Sherlock Holmes, "The Adventure of the Solitary Cyclist"]

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10. [WARNING for discussion of rape]

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ohhh nooooo :((((((((((

Oh yes. I was most unimpressed.

I do not allow that sort of thing when I'm given a gaggle of children to look after.

There are so many people who have this "what can you do" conciliatory attitude towards children, and like, no. You parent. Children are absolutely capable of learning that no means no, and most children are not wild enough that they will absolutely go batshit and wreck things no matter what.

...They sure don't have a problem learning if you're consistent, is what I've found. But oh nooo parenting is so hard and kids just won't do anything you tell them.

I've been a teacher for kids as young as three (and up to 11 years)! If I can handle a classroom full of twenty-some-odd five year children and have them all working happily in their seats, then one four year old should not pose a problem to you. And not just one class, either. Eleven different classes full of different kids with different needs, ages, abilities...

I also can't count the number of times I've taken care of someone's kids, had them in bed and asleep before mom and dad got home, and been tipped extra by parents who were downright mystified that I had managed that.

There's this family I go to, and their son is into everything 100% of the time. not in a bad way, but he makes huge messes.
Well, when I'm sitting and reading and I've got my pile of post-its next to me, I won't let him touch them, and I don't move them out of reach, either. It took some insisting and pushing his hands away, but eventually he got the point. I can't help but think that if his parents were more consistent, they could have their house not be a mess, either. (my sister and her husband, for example, when their daughter is making a mess while eating - throwing food or whatever - out of the chair immediately and away with the food. They do NOT tolerate that bullshit).

I'm sure you're way better than me, though XD it's also a learned skill... I applaud your ability to work with an entire class. I taught a class of four kids this year, and it was tough.

Well, it also helps that I have a naturally kind of soft voice and a non-threatening presence that kids seem to like and respond to instantly. Introduce me to any kid and within five minutes they want to show me all their toys, play games, etc. Even reserved kids still really like me because I don't badger them into being social.

That makes it extremely simple to have a reward system where if a child is acting up or not listening to me, they don't get access to me or to whatever fun thing they were doing. It only takes a few attempts for them to understand the system, and to understand that I don't compromise. On the other hand, it also takes constant vigilance until they understand the system... and that's probably where a lot of people go wrong.

I imagine it would be waaayyy harder to deal with children the way I do if you aren't the kind of person that kids just kind of innately like.

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