[ SECRET POST #3474 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3474 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[Hide and Seek by Imogen Heap]



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02. http://i.imgur.com/8Lfgcp8.jpg
[A Game of Thrones, Tyene Sand; link because OP warned for nudity]


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03.
[Independence Day]


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04.
[Queen at Arms]


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05. [repeat]


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06. [WARNING for underage/shota]

[Boku no Pico]


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07. [SPOILERS for Game of Thrones]



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08. [WARNING for incest]
[WARNING for rape]



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09. [WARNING for gore, torture]
















Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #496.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2- too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Eh I said it above but not pursuing a relationship =/= sudden lack of attraction. Attraction isn't a choice but deciding to enter a relationship, is.

If this were a lesbian who were attracted to a feminine man who kept insisting he identified as a man, she'd have the choice not to date him because she's a lesbian, too. She might still find him attractive, but that's not the relationship she wants.

[blitzwing]

I don't think anyone's arguing they don't have a choice. We're asking, "Why does it change your decision?"

[(Anonymous)]

Because someone who isn't into girls might be uncomfortable in a relationship with someone he knows identifies as a girl. It has nothing to do with the outside, it has to do with the mental gender and *knowing* that the other person identifies a different way than what you're attracted to them for. Some people don't want to deal with that.

[(Anonymous)]

DA. I'll reply as was in that situation. Am gay, solely attracted to men and my identity is important as hell to me. Sure, attraction is attraction - be it romantic or sexual but acting on it is a different thing. My boyfriend is trans and discounting relationship, would do same as the dude in game. Dunno how to pose it in none-monosexual terms... Maybe as a choice you make when an important concept about someone is different?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm bi/pan, but I get this. If I see someone as male and am attracted to them as a male and they say they're female, it's probably not going to work regardless of their physical gender. It wouldn't be that I'm not attracted to female people, it would be that I wouldn't be able to pursue a relationship knowing I'm attracted to them as an identity they don't hold, even if I will treat them with respect as the gender they tell me they are. They probably wouldn't want that either and that's understandable from both sides.

[(Anonymous)]

I would be too anxious about invalidating someone's identity and making them feel bad. Like, telling someone "okay its nice that you're a girl but I'm gonna pretend you're a dude and think of you as a dude" sounds like it would be a real headfuck for the person identifying as a girl.

[(Anonymous)]

Hmmm... Coming at it from the other direction: let's say I'm a straight woman and I meet a person who appears to be a man whom I find attractive. This person says "Actually, I identify as a woman, but I'm not planning on ever transitioning or presenting as a woman." I'd probably feel a little weird about dating her even though the male body and presentation I was attracted to isn't changing and her personality is still what it was when I met her. Part of it might be worry that maybe she'll change her mind and transition or start presenting as a woman, part of it might be concern over what this might mean for our sex life, part of it might be tripping over pronouns or dealing with other people's confusion, but part of it is also just the fact that there is a part of this person's identity that does not attract me.