[ SECRET POST #3486 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3486 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Maya Rudolph & Martin Short]


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[Hamilton/South Park]


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[John Spencer]


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[Sliders]


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[Daniel Radcliffe]


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[Star Trek: Deep Space Nine]


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[Dune]


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[Assassin's Creed Syndicate]


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[Mulberry]


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Comments

Re: How to be more firm

[(Anonymous)]

Hm. So I think there's two different (not mutually exclusive) approaches that can help you improve at this.

The first is becoming more firm and resolute. And that's hard, especially when you're really conflict averse (I'm like that too!). And I think the only really useful thing there is to try to stick to your guns, and really be focused on the stakes - on the reasons you think you're right and on the upside and on what you're trying to do. And, when you start feeling bad about making someone unhappy, just try to keep those things present in your mind and use them to counterweigh that unhappiness.

The second is getting better at conflict resolution. Now, I don't want to suggest that these conflicts are in any way your fault. But I find that, in dealing with unreasonable people, it can be a lot easier if you find the right way to approach them, and sort of jujitsu their arguments, and structure what you're saying in a way that they can understand, and assuage their concerns. So try reading up on conflict resolution skills. IMO they're really useful to have in general.