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⌈ Secret Post #3486 ⌋

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[Hamilton/South Park]

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[Dune]

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[Assassin's Creed Syndicate]

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If you have been taking a very weak stance in arguments for a long time, people who've known you might assume they can just talk over you and get their way no matter what you're actually saying to them. No remedy for this but time.

Practice arguments with yourself, and saying things clearly and firmly. Avoid vocal uptick that turns? things into questions??? Also avoid hesitant or wishy-washy language. Try to be blunt and clear. So, "No, I'm not going to the movie tonight." rather than "I'm not sure I really want to go to the movie tonight."

Also mind your body language. This is SUPER important, maybe even moreso than your words. Google 'confident' body language and practice posing yourself like that. When you're in a confrontation, use strong, aggressive, and calm body language to your advantage. (Trufax: Carrying yourself confidently makes you feel more confident, while carrying yourself timidly makes you feel more timid. Use this to your advantage to psych yourself up!)

Learning to not give a fuck what other people think is unfortunately a hard-earned skill, and one you might never fully grasp if you're very sensitive. But, you can fake it! With practice you can project a calm, controlled facade while cringing in terror inside!

And, if all else fails and they out-argue you, END THE ARGUMENT. Walk away, disengage, do what you intended to do in the first place. They can't "win" if you don't give them the chance.

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Re: How to be more firm