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⌈ Secret Post #3499 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

He's probably afraid to say "steak and a blowjob".

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

OP -Funnily enough that's almost literally exactly what I said i'd be happy with for my birthday "food and oral" hahaha. :P

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

This is exactly the kind of fucking thing I was talking about. Fuck.

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

But?

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry, I'm not sure what you mean.

What I'm saying is that jokes like this are exactly the fucking reason why romance and feelings are socially marked as not having anything to do with men, and that this is stupid and wrong.

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

My huh autocorrected, I just noticed haha. And yeah, I see what you mean - there's this whole cultural expectation that men can't do romantic and all features have to be overtly sexual and macho. It's a shame isn't it

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

Huh?

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

Please stop acting as though the only things men want out of like are sex and meat.

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

Nobody said anything like that, tho.

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

The underlying logic of all those jokes is that men prefer things like sex and food to expressions of romance and emotion. Especially when it's explicitly counterposed to things that are regarded as emotional occasions for women.

I'm really sorry if I'm being a dumb ass here, but seriously, what else do those jokes and all the attached narratives mean, if not that?

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

To be fair, OP did report that her BF wasn't particularly interested in expressions of romance and emotion. She asked him directly and "he basically just shrugged". The fact that he didn't get her squat for Valentine's Day also supports the theory that he's not a poor oppressed soul dying to be able to express himself romantically if only society would allow it.

So maybe he is the type of guy who might enjoy steak and a blowjob?

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

da

He could be. He could equally likely be a guy who's been told romance = flowers = frilly = for girls all his life and have no idea what to do besides the rote flowers and chocolate which can easily appear meaningless or superficial and not worth the time.

I know guys who would say steak and a blowjob would be their choice. Most of them are guys who either complain the romance has died or can't think of anything better, not guys that have entertained other ideas and decided they don't want any of them because being tossed a steak is superior. If you asked a guy what would be romantic to them, most of them say nothing because they don't know. It's not an idea they're expected to entertain.

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't want the blowjob because I'm a woman, but I think being treated to a steak dinner (a nice one, not like a cheap grocery store steak) and getting eaten out later would actually be pretty great. I know the "steak and sex" thing is supposed to be a joke directed at the expense of men but it honestly does sound romantic to me. I mean, I love food and I love sex so...yeah, I'm totally cool with that

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a straight female who wouldn't at all mind a good steak and my favorite guy going down on me....

Re: Romantic things for men

[(Anonymous)]

There's nothing wrong with steak or oral sex. The problem is with the joke that people make about those things and the narrative about men that underlies him.

Like, it's one thing to say that steak and sex are good. It's another thing to say that Valentines Day is for women and Steak and Blowjob Day is the equivalent for men.