[ SECRET POST #3500 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3500 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eghk9bVNN9M ]


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[Impractical Jokers (R-L): Joe, Q, Sal, Murr]


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04.
[American Gods]


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[Pretty Little Liars]


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[Doctor Who]


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07.
[A Game of Thrones, Littlefinger/Sansa]


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08.
[Brie Larson vs. Alison Brie]














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Comments

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Can you explain the difference? Every definition I've been able to find of sexual attraction says it means "looking at someone and wanting to have sex with them" which you're disagreeing with.

If you don't want to have sex with them, then what makes you sexually attracted to them?

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Nayrt but I can think of plenty of reasons people would want to have sex in theory but have no real life desire to actually have the sex

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

But if you're not interested in sex at all then you're not going to want to have sex with any specific person, so how can you be sexually attracted to them if you don't want to have sex with them and that's what it means? Or have I just been finding incorrect definitions and it means something else?

Or is it like "I don't want to have sex, but if I did, I'd totally do it with this person"?

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

I would say its akin to your last sentence. People can not want to have sex for many personal reasons (medical conditions that make it uncomfortable, trauma, religion, etc) and still be attracted to people.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

You may want to have sex in general, and feeling attraction is recognizing the kinds of people you would want to have sex with, were conditions right. Frequently conditions are not right - maybe they're not interested or it's just not good timing, maybe you have a lot of anxiety about sex in general, or STDs or pregnancy, maybe you want to wait until you've been together longer, maybe you're attracted to certain aspects abput them but other aspects really turn you off. There's wanting to have sex, and then there's wanting to have sex. There's a whole range of attraction feelings here.

Re: poll

[diet_poison]

I personally hate that definition. It leaves out so much nuance.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

What is your definition then? I'm not trying to be difficult or give you a hard time, I'm just really curious. Not knowing how to define sexual attraction is the main reason I'm still not sure what my sexuality is.

Re: poll

[diet_poison]

I think the Wikipedia definition is a good start at least:

Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.

Like...you can be attracted to someone on the basis of sexual desire without actively wanting to fuck them. You can also be attracted to someone without immediately being aroused. It's kind of hard to explain in really tangible terms what the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction is even though I experience both - it's just a different mental, emotional, and sometimes physical reaction when I look at someone attractive. Sometimes you just get that quick adrenaline burst, sometimes you just know that if you got the chance to get close to them, you'd take it.

I'm not actively looking for a sexual partner and in my entire life the number of people I've actively wanted to sleep with is one. But I have experienced sexual attraction to many.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Thanks for your explanation, but wow, that still makes no sense to me at all. Like, I can get the "you just know that if you got the chance to get close to them, you'd take it" but being close to them isn't the same thing as sex. Unless you're using "get close to them" as code for sex in which case...if it means basically that if you had the chance to have sex with them you'd take it, how is that different than wanting to have sex with them? To me, WANTING to have sex with them isn't the same thing as actively pursuing sex with them.

Sorry for not getting it, apparently I'm just an idiot. :(

Re: poll

[diet_poison]

I don't want to have sex with most of the people I'm attracted to. I guess to me wanting something implies you would try to get it if you could? Otherwise the word is kind of meaningless.

You can be attracted to someone physically and not want to have sex with them for a large variety of reasons. Or because maybe you're just not interested in sex.