[ SECRET POST #3504 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3504 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Relationship advice

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say no, it's not normal in a healthy relationship with two responsible adults. A person who likes you and wants to spend time with you will act like it, not just pay lip service to the idea. Now of course this depends on what the "something" is that came up. If it's not a job or family emergency and it's just him flaking, that tells you that actually no, he's not missing you that much despite what he tells you.

Don't be too forgiving, anon. You're not being unreasonable to expect a grown adult to make appointments and keep them, or let you know ASAP if he can't make it. Who initiates your dates? Is it always you, or does he make plans, too? Does he make an effort to reschedule when he can't see you? Does he keep to his own plans?

Say something sooner rather than later, because the longer you wait, the more entrenched a problem becomes. It doesn't have to be accusatory, just something like, "Hey, I've noticed that you end up canceling our dates a lot even though we both agreed to the time/place. What's up with that?" Then listen and nod. Make it clear that you expect him to make a plan and stick to it instead of showing up late or never, because that's being inconsiderate. And if he gets huffy and defensive? Ooh, welcome to Dumpsville.

Someone who wants to see you and be with you will find a way to do that. How he behaves toward you will tell you the truth. You just need to believe it.

Re: Relationship advice

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks. I sent him a few texts explaining how I felt and I'm waiting on a response.