[ SECRET POST #3517 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3517 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think a better BDSM comparison, if you want to look at through that lens, is 50 Shades of Gray. Yes, it was fictionalized BDSM that got a lot of people hot and bothered. Yes, it utilized tropes associated with how that sex works. But it was extremely annoying to people who engage in BDSM sex, or happen to be familiar with the surrounding culture and dynamics. The only people getting off on that fantasy were people who knew nothing about it at all.

That's fine, in the sense that it succeeded at being erotic to the author and the audience. Unrealistic fantasies have their place. But it would be absurd to try and argue with the (totally valid) criticism with anecdotal, second-hand information from vague sources, just so you can feel vindicated and justified about liking that fantasy. Yet that's exactly what people do with this top/bottom issue. The people in these debates REALLY want to be "right" about something where there is literally no right or wrong answer - and because they've spent years in a fantasy echo chamber, they mistakenly think they're quite knowledgeable about the subject.