[ SECRET POST #3518 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3518 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Star Trek: Voyager]


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[Voltron]


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[Up the Women]


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[Digimon Adventure 02]


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[Assassin's Creed: Syndicate]


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[The Sims]


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[The X-Files]


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[Letterkenny, Stewart/Katy]












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Comments

Re: Things you want to tell people but can't

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

For some people, the reason others don't want to be in a relationship with them will never be clear, because no matter how many times you tell them that some behavior of theirs bothers you enough to be a deal-breaker, they see nothing wrong with it and keep on doing it.

Re: Things you want to tell people but can't

[diet_poison]

I think that's a really specific case and probably not what happened here (nor what happened to me). Most recently, I had a guy tell me that he'd been really angry a few times but said nothing at the time because he felt guilty for possibly upsetting me. Then he blew up at me in a really hurtful way after he let it build up. I still only know one of the instances in which he was mad and have no idea what I did the other X times. He hasn't told me. He won't tell me. I recently gave up trying to get him to talk to me after he said he would, then changed his mind a few times, and when I called him on it and said it was hurting me and I wished he'd own up and try to fix it, he threw a tantrum at me a few weeks ago in front of some mutual friends. I still have to see him all the time or give up my favorite hobby, and being around him sucks. But at this point I am honestly pretty done with him. :/ Still not sure what, if anything, I'm going to do. I can't really just distance myself from him and I get jumpy around him now so I look forward to my weekends less than before.

It's pretty cruel to hurt someone and then make them be around you all the time (unless they give up something they love doing) without even trying to make it right. Am I entitled to anything from him? Of course not, not one word. Doesn't change how shitty his behavior was and that I have a right to be upset about it. (It's also pretty immature IMO. He's a few years younger than me. Learned my lesson on that one, I hope. And for clarification, he and I used to date but broke up months ago, so this is all happening in the context of a friendship, or so I thought.)

If I can't trust people to be open and honest with me if I'm upsetting them and genuinely do not know it, what can I trust? I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around everyone I love. I feel like I'll never be able to do anything right. Anything I say that is even slightly wrong, that someone acts even a little upset or weirded out by, I start to freak out a little bit that I've ruined everything and they're never going to talk to me again. I'm not always like this but it's been really heightened lately. It fucking sucks.