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⌈ Secret Post #3518 ⌋

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[Star Trek: Voyager]

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[Voltron]

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[Up the Women]

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[Digimon Adventure 02]

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[Assassin's Creed: Syndicate]

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[The Sims]

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[The X-Files]

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[Letterkenny, Stewart/Katy]

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Late, but thank you.

(Catching up with this thread kinda hurt, to be honest, cause like....I know I can't FORCE him to talk to me, and I don't want to, either! I just wish he would decide to.)

I'm sorry you're going through the same shit.

Yeah, I understand - and thanks. :) I'd feel the same way and in fact I do...I'm going through it right now and have in the past as well. :/

I think there's a level of immaturity that comes that kind of behavior - specifically what you and I have dealt with. I recently broke up with someone who is 22 (I just turned 26 last month; he'll be 23 next month). He's more than three years younger than me. Now, after saying he wanted to be friends, he has suddenly changed his tune and is basically afraid to try to make it right. To some extent I have nobody but myself to blame for believing getting into a relationship with a 22-year-old "man" was a good idea. Men are statistically NOT mature at that age and I think a lot of women aren't either. I should stick with "at least 25" from here on out...too bad the dating pool shrinks as you get older...

Aw man. Yeah, there are a fewww people that age who might be emotionally mature enough but you can't count on someone being the exception, ya know?

My ex is 27 like me. Some people will just ghost a motherfucker forever I suppose.

Did they actually ghost you? Oh man. That is the worst. I'm so sorry.

I know there are people here who will disagree with me but I fucking HATE ghosting. It's cruel. If you're inclined to ghost people I don't think you should be getting into committed relationships. Commitment means commitment, not "oh I'll hang around until I feel like disappearing".

Here's hoping you can pick up the pieces and move on. It is likely they will never talk to you. Rise above it and find someone better next time. *hugs*

(Also, I think there's a fair chunk of people, especially guys, who still are not mature at 27. I've known 30-year-olds who acted like college kids)

Oh, not exactly. He did actually do some breaking up but it was very vague "I just can't do this right now, I'm sorry" type shit. And SINCE then it was a "yup we do need to talk and we will soon," but then nothing, and it's been a week. Fine. I get it. I won't try to force it.

I can move on and I will. It's too soon for it not to still hurt, though. Like I'm so hurt and pissed I'm not hoping we'll get back together anymore, but that doesn't mean some song or whatever won't suddenly remind me of something sweet he said and make me start crying, hahaha. Ugh. Like I'm up and out and doing things, I'm not just sitting around listening to Adele, but that doesn't mean I'm not hurting inside. Plus I'm trying really really hard not to talk about it much. He and I have a lotttt of mutual friends, and we got together REALLY fast and hard (like enough for it to be visible to everyone), so I feel like the whole world knows and there's just a big spotlight on how sad I am. PLUS his finishing-move was so shitty, which I also assume everyone knows, I'm like embarrassed for not having shaken the sadness off yet.

sorry to rant at you. Thanks for being there =)

Wow, still a lot of stuff similar to my situation...the fact that it was visible in front of mutual friends, and that he said we would talk but hasn't (and actively reneged on it, so I guess that is even worse in a way)...ugh

Nothing to be embarrassed about, we all feel sad! Most people get really cut up about at least some of the breakups in their life. If they are decent friends they will understand.

(Awkwardly, literally all of our mutual friends are guys, and some of them aren't very mature...that makes it more sticky...I've been trying to avoid any drama in front of them. Unfortunately he yelled at me in front of a few others a couple weeks ago. Yikes)

No problem, and talking about it has helped me too! Don't worry about "ranting", I really don't mind.

We will both be stronger on the other side of our shit. *offers hugs*

Aw, man, I'm sorry he did that.

Thanks a lot <3

eee puppeh and kitteh

<3

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