[ SECRET POST #3532 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3532 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Rupaul's Drag Race: All Stars 2]


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(Breaking Bad)


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[Facts, Max Byrne a.k.a. "Leather Jacket Guy"]


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05.
(Tuesdays with Morrie)


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[Xena Warrior Princess]


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[Longmire - Walt/Vic]
















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Comments

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

I think you already know this anon, but someone who can't be happy for you and who constantly treats you like you're not good enough isn't really your friend.

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

She's going through some stuff atm, which is why I'm willing to let it slide. Even if it's not the best feeling in the world.
What are friends if you can't forgive them, y'know?

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

"Going through some stuff" isn't a great excuse for taking out your stress on other people and ensuring they're as miserable as you are. You do what you need to do, but remember: when people mistreat you and you "let it slide", it tells them that you're okay with their behavior. Chances are you'll get more of whatever it is you're willing to put up with.

da

[(Anonymous)]

^This.

It's one thing for a friend to be in a funk, but if they have a pattern of using their funk to justify some crappy behavior, followed by not acknowledging said behavior or how it was hurtful to you, then at some point, you have to ask yourself what this person actually brings to your life.

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

This is putting it kind of harshly, but it's not wrong. Most of the people I know of who have a friend who's crappy to them ended up that way because they made excuses for the friend for years. They wanted to be nice and loyal, because that's what friends do, right? Well... the problem is, the person who treats you badly isn't your friend. They're not seeing your gracious understanding for what it is, all they see is that on some level, you're cool with how they're behaving because otherwise why would you put up with it for so long?

Eventually there's always that straw that breaks the camel's back, but honestly, it doesn't have to get that bad. Just nip this in the bud and realize that you don't need to sign up for years of a crappy, one-sided "friendship" and there is no prize for being someone else's emotional punching bag. Don't waste your life on people like this.

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

whoa whoa whoa

I realize my story was very one-sided and blunt, but I assure you, none of what you're describing is happening here

I know what toxic friendships are like from experience, and I did actually put an end to them because I don't put up with shitty behavior indefinitely (I have a very low tolerance for it, actually)

I appreciate the advice though :)

Re: First World Problems

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - "I feel like I have to constantly prove myself to her." makes it sound like this isn't an isolated incident, and I think that's what people are picking up on. Also lots of people go through lots of difficult periods and many of us manage NOT to piss on other peoples' dreams and goals. It's not hard, really.