[ SECRET POST #3543 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3543 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

>agender aromantic asexual transgender genderqueen
How does this shit even works? Half of them negate the others. I've seen a girl who identified as "aromantic asexual lesbian non-binary trans" before but I was too afraid to ask.

[(Anonymous)]

It could be that OP just threw a whole bunch of words together at random

just a possibility

[(Anonymous)]

People like that usually wring most thesauruses dry to write their profiles. I've seen worse.

[(Anonymous)]

As a person who identifies as what you said, it's quite simple, really. What you described simply means: AFAB, who doens't identify as male or female(non-binary), who masturbates to women ("lesbian"), but doesn't want to engage in romantic or sexual relationship with them("aromantic asexual"), and is considering medically transitioning ("trans").

I generally try to stay away from labels and describe myself as just "queer"or "lgbt", but there are situations where it's not possible, because either someone complains that the word is *ist, or demands that I state my creds before I dare to talk about issues pertaining to asexual people, lesbians or non-binary people, which are relevant to my life and experiences.

[(Anonymous)]

SA

And yes, I do realize that non-binary lesbian asexual sounds contradictory, but that is primarily the fault of there being a lack of a more suitable word describing non-binary people who are exclusively attracted to one gender, but don't feel like engaging in relationships. "celibate lesbian" sounds homophobic, just "lesbian" makes people think I'm an option in the dating pool when I'm not, "bisexual non-binary" would be a lie, and I don't feel comfortable identifying as just "asexual" when I spend so much time masturbating to women in a world where there's a huge social taboo against same-sex attration.

If you want to stop people from listing their labels, simply get rid of the culture which demands that everyone shows their credentials before their opinion on issues related to their life is taken into consideration.

[world_eater]

transitioning to what? are there procedures to remove gender makers?

also im curious, in what way does being attracted to women affect your life if you're aromantic and asexual?

this sounds like im grilling you it's fine not to answer ofc

[(Anonymous)]

It's not grilling, I fully understand the curiosity.

With regards to your first question, I know of people who underwent partial transition, albeit many did so by pretending to be transmen and then only following through with some procedures, before stopping. I don't think it will ever be possible for me, due to financial reasons, but if I could do this too, I would.

My attraction to women affects my life in the way of having to be aware that when I am open about it, I will be perceived as as a lesbian and treated accordingly, espcially given the fact that I'm also open about my disinterest in dating men. I have actually been conflicted about whether I'm just a lesbian or just an asexual for over 10 years, before settlig for both.

People often forget that outside fandom, and indeed even inside it, few people understand or respect the idea of asexuality to begin with, and lesbians are not welcomed with open arms. It caused me many years of internal conflict, constantly questioning myself and having feelings of guilt over either being a "bad lesbian" brainwashed by heteronormativity to not want relationships with women, or a "bad feminist" brainwshed by patriarchy to find women attractive. And that's not even taking into account the ongoing war between lesbians and female bisexuals.