[ SECRET POST #3543 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3543 ⌋

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Comments

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

A lot of people seem to have missed the memo that you can do all of those things (have kids, get a serious job, etc.) without becoming boring. Hell, one of my coworkers is a grandma and she is an absolute hoot to be around because she still knows how to have fun and not take things super seriously. I had to explain Pokemon Go to her the other day when she saw me checking on my egg and now she wants to try it herself.

My advice? Look for the people like my coworker who aren't afraid to still have fun. They are out there.

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT.

Yeah, this. I have married friends with kids who are playing POkemon!Go. (And, frankly, I'm not into that. But that's okay. We talk writing and craft and her kids and our cats and it's fine.)

Granted, making new friends is definitely Difficult, and I've been through a lot of people who ended up having no common interests after they had kids and settled down. Some I keep up with and, yes, most of their talk is about their kids and things that I don't want to talk about all day, but they're also s happy to talk about my work, or my stories, or fandom, or random things...

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, you seem to be coming from the perspective that only fandom and fandom people are interesting, while kids, house-hunting, and serious jobs are boring. That's kind of a limited and limiting way of thinking.

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT - I don't think that's what anyone else is saying. There is even a difference between talking about your kids and jobs and stuff and... well, being boring about it. (FWIW, people can be like that with fandoms as well.)

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

This makes me wonder if you (not you, specifically) ever found these friends interesting to begin with, since it's apparently not the changing interests that make them dull.

Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[(Anonymous)]

I think AYRT brought up an important point: it may not be their interests per se that turn some people into bores. Maybe it's a certain self-importance and self-centeredness that they have or develop, that leads them to dominate a conversation and feel entitled to do so. I can see becoming bored from a conversation if you feel excluded from it--either because you don't feel in a position to contribute or because the person you're talking to is rude and won't let you get a word in edgewise.

[(Anonymous)]

I have/have done two of those three things (no kids, not sure whether I ever want them) and let's face it, they are pretty boring, unless you're one of those people who has an interesting job rather than just a job that pays the bills.