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⌈ Secret Post #3543 ⌋

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Re: How do you deal with friends "growing up"?

[ketita]

I've thought about this before, and I think it boils down to the fact that there are (broadly) two major types of conversations that people will have in friend groups: conversations about people, and conversations about topics.
Conversations about people includes gossip, who's-doing-what, did you hear what X did last week, children, etc.
Conversations about topics is what it sounds like - talking about an idea, or book, or event, or philosophy, etc.
I tend to find the first type pretty boring, but I like the second type. I've noticed that with a lot of people in academia, conversations will often be of the second sort - and that's the type of conversation almost anybody can participate in, because it doesn't demand prior knowledge.

The question is also, how much can you contribute to the conversation? Talking about house renovation, for example, tends to be descriptive (I have heard a lot about that recently, because my parents are renovating). And yeah, it gets boring, because there's nothing for me to think about or contribute, unless they're specifically asking my opinion on something.

So my answer would be: talk about topics, not about people (and those topics don't have to be fandom)