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If you went to university, or are still going, do you feel you had or are having a "true" experience? Do you think one exists? Any regrets? (Besides loans and jobs afterwards. That goes without saying for many, sadly!)

I am, like... militantly against the idea of caring about a "true" experience with stuff like university, or whatever. I used to care about things like that when I was younger and it only ever makes me miserable and anxious. I think you should enjoy your experience, whatever it's like, as much as you can. Trying to compare it to some artificial yardstick, which is probably some half-received nonsensical ideas from movies and TV anyway, doesn't make anything better. It just makes me constantly worry about every single aspect of what's going on, and constantly obsessed with checking things off a list before time runs out.

That's how I feel about it personally.

I went to a small college here a lot of us either commuted or went home during the weekends, so I definitely feel I missed out on experiences students at larger schools. Part of me wished there were more opportunities to socialize and make friends - the people I tried making friends with all pretty much had stuff going on outside and didn't really need a deeper friendship than hanging out at lunch or study groups. (And with it being such a small school, meeting new, more social people wasn't always easy.) At the same time, I'm also a fairly reserved person, so I can't imagine I would've liked living in a dorm and/or partying it up until dawn.

I'm not sure what I was supposed to experience, but I liked it? It was nice having that transitional period where I wasn't 100% on my own or responsible for much, but I was also a legal adult living apart from my parents with more freedom than I had as a teen. I got a degree, got into grad school, got another degree, and have been working in the field I studied ever since, so it all worked out.

I've never been all "Rah Rah Rah!" about my school and going back for homecoming games or anything (maybe because my university decided to drop its football program the year before I started so there wasn't much to get "Rah Rah Rah!" about - plus I live in a different time zone.) I also didn't meet the love of my life there and, unfortunately, I've fallen out of contact with my college friends (oh, those pre-Facebook days), and that sets my college experience apart from a lot of people I know.

Do you think one exists?

Not really, or at least not in the US. I think university is a lot like high school, where media depictions and reality are... totally different. Watching movies you basically expect it to be parties all the time and making lifelong friends with the first ten people you meet when in reality, people taking five classes per semester don't really have time to party, and even if you make friends your first semester, if you have different classes the next semester or semester after that, you may never see them. I mean, it probably depends a lot on the school too (just like depictions of high school), but I don't think there's really any "full college experience" as we see it.

I go to state college - no dorms, all commuting - and this is my final semester. I wish I had made a bigger effort to make contacts - I mean friends. But I'll live.

Well, I went to film school which is a bit different anyway. I really enjoyed the experience, but I don't think it was a 'true' or 'typical' one, whatever that may even mean.

What is a true university experience? I guess I regret which college I went to. I went to a small school, which was good for me, but it was a religious school because my family had contacts there and it was the easiest path to go. And I ended up dropping out of my first school for medical reasons and then coming to a different school a year and a half later. I regret picking the school I did because I completely mentally crashed and no one noticed. I failed an entire semester and none of my professors or advisors or "friends" thought to check on me and find out what was going on. I wish I'd gone to a more secular school, too, for both schools. But at least the second school was a better fit for me and I had advisers who actually cared about me. I'd say my best school experience was law school. That I loved.

The university experience died when they axed grants and moved to tuition fees and student loans.

Most of my university experience (which will be ending in couple months) was consumed by depression and other mental illness. I have never been invited to a single party. I thought I made friends, then they graduated before me last semester and stopped talking to me completely. I never made close connections. I spend most of my time alone. I am incredibly unhappy.

I feel like I did it wrong, but moreover I feel like I've been doing my whole life wrong, so yeah.

Never had to take out any student loans though, I did baller with scholarships and grants. Like, I am quite poor at the moment, but knowing I will graduate without debt is a silver lining.

The actual fuck?

There is no "true" Uni experience. You get what you put in.

AYRT - Okay, so I meant "full experience." Sorry I offended you so much.

I wasn't offended, just totally baffled as to how someone would get the idea that there was a correct way to experience University.

I didn't have a "true" experience at all, but I don't regret it: I got what I came for and more, had an amazing time, and now have good jobs/job prospects (at least for my field).

I dunno. I liked college, but if I wasn't in class or studying, I was working to pay for school and didn't have much of a social life. I guess I wish I'd been a little less shy and a little more daring.

True experience???

I had an experience, I imagine a lot I share with other ppl then also have my own experiences.

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