[ SECRET POST #3580 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3580 ⌋

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Comments

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[kallanda_lee]

Well, I guess it's regional (and I'm translating), but I have been called Miss pretty consistently until maybe 2 years ago. People still do when it's just on the phone, often.

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[(Anonymous)]

Huh. Maybe instead of ~trying to appear younger~, think about why it matters so much to you that someone calls you ma'am? Hell, I've even had someone call me sir once by accident from the back. They were so apologetic and it was just funny.

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[kallanda_lee]

It's not the Ma'am thing specifically. It's how people associate certain things with people who appear more mature.

Like, being responsible. which I'm not.

Like, being interested in their home renovation/gardening project (see above) Also: their wedding and their babies.

Like, people assuming i'm interested in jobs I'm not interested in and vice versa.

What I'm trying to say: I think it's disadvantaging me in terms of the social groups I'm being classified with (that I often have not much in common with) and even disadvantaging me at possible opportunities (because people just flat out assume I'm not interested without asking). And suddenly you find yourself invited to baby showers but not to Disneyland trips.

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[(Anonymous)]

I dunno, that sounds to me more like you're hanging out with the wrong people? I mean, it's cool to be friends with people who are in different stages of life than you, but if you're friends with them, then they'd know you well enough to know that you prefer Disneyland over baby showers.

And if it's strangers who are making these assumptions, then their opinions don't really matter.

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[kallanda_lee]

Maybe, but certain things are more common an certain age groups. And I feel like so many people just cling to their age group. I feel like I just keep getting sucked in with crowds I have nothing in common with, and this was far less of a problem, say, 8 years ago.

Re: As a counterpoint: coming off less mature than you are.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe. I mean, I don't have any friends who are my age exactly. My best friend is three years younger and the rest of them are co-workers where the closest one in age is three years older than me, and really, they're all in the 'had kids, have a house' comfortable stage of life.

But at the same time, they know what I'm like and it's never been an issue that I'm at a comfortable stage in my life and don't WANT the kids/house thing. I mean, a house would be cool if I could afford it flat out, but houses in my area go for a minimum of 800k usually, so that would never happen without me giving up my job or commuting more than an hour+ from somewhere less urban.