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[ SECRET POST #3608 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3608 ⌋

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Where are you getting that this person respects their friend? When they're literally like "How can I get her to stop saying things I don't like?"

To be clear, I don't want to stop her. She has a right to her views.

The issue is that I'm being exposed to pro-Trump stuff constantly IRL and in very ugly circumstances, and I also have a right to control my dash and what I see and don't see.

Yeah. And they way you do that is by no longer following people who espouse things you don't want to see. That's how you control it. Not by saying "If you're going to write about X, tag that shit so I don't have to look at it." You're being an entitled brat.

Get the hell out of here.

Demanding that their friend tag stuff might be somewhat entitled. Politely asking them to isn't. It's a perfectly reasonable request to allow two mature people who disagree on an issue to preserve their friendship.

Hide her political posts or just avert your eyes when they pop up on your feed. Simple.

Yep.

No. That's not what they're "literally like", your reading comprehension is quite poor.

Shhh, the adults are talking.

Exactly!

To make it clear, I don't want to censor her or make her stop posting. It isn't my place to do that.

I would just like to politely ask her to tag her politics/Trump-defending posts so I don't have to see them on my dash, and be able to post my own anti-Trump posts without trouble on either side. I also don't want to antagonize her outright - when she isn't discussing politics, she has interesting things to say about our shared fandoms, and I really respect her as a writer.

Right now I feel like I'm working a delicate balance and hiding my own beliefs to keep up our friendship, and it's growing more and more tiring, with increasing tension in the air.

"I feel like I can't say what I want to say, because they say what they want to say." That's a You problem, not a Your Friend problem. Grow up, say what you want in your space. Because it sounds like all this tension? Is wholly coming from YOU.

You have a good point.

Taking this into consideration, I may as well post what I want. If anything happens, I can say it's my blog and I can post what I want, as she can post what she wants on hers.

Exactly! And if any disagreements start to form, take it as an opportunity to open a peaceful dialogue. You might change her perspective about some things. She might change yours, and if it looks like neither of you are going to see an argument differently, accept it as one of those things you don't agree on and move on to other things.

And it will be up to each of you on an individual level to decide when there's too much disagreement to make the online friendship worthwhile.

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