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Of course I don't think that, but there is a massive breadth of child psychological research highlighting the benefits of the first few months of bonding. People CAN overcome it with hard work, but why on earth would you not take the advantage of that when it wasn't necessary to give it up? Universities have a lot of support services for parents. Is it the best choice for her? Maybe. Is it the best for the child? Probably not. Not insurmountable, but I feel like it's a damn shame. School will still be there next year.

You do know that grandparents looking after children while their mother went to work is something that was not only common throughout history, but is also common in a lot of places in the rest of the world? We're not just talking about the developing world, but in countries in Europe and Scandinavia too. Places where kids grow up to be more psychologically healthy than in America, partially because they have the security of an extended family support structure instead of just having to depend on one or two parental figures who may have seriously compromised their finances and life-security in order to devote all their time to to the infant.

Yes, I am aware of that; I'm Finnish. And there is a difference between the grandparents watching baby while mother is at work, and a whole 5 days with no contact at all. That is what I think will have an impact.

I might, and it might not. Everyone is different. Me, I don't think it's going to be that big of a problem, and she *will* have one-on-one mom/baby time for at least two months (or longer), depending on when school starts.

I would not be surprised if she changed her decision when it got to that stage. Life is rarely neat. I had a lot if plans for how I'd live life after I had my baby, and most of them went upside down out the window because you simply can't understand how you'll react until you're there.

Yup, there's this, too. Plans are a *good* thing, but nothing is certain.

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