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⌈ Secret Post #3685 ⌋

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Comments

Re: TW mental illness discussion just in case

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, it is fine. Your health > Their Health.

"Did they even try to help?"

[(Anonymous)]

Is the question I hear get asked the most.

Would it change your mind if an attempt wasn't made? Do you owe a family member, for example, an attempt? Even if it might hurt you?

Re: "Did they even try to help?"

[kallanda_lee]

How do you know it might hurt you if you never tried? I mean unless we're speaking things like sociopathy. I find that sort of suspect.

"Owe" is of course a difficult term.

But say it's a person you'd normally care for, like a parent, sibling, good friend - it's the decent thing to do.

I often find it a good exercise to replace "mental illness" with a physical illness. Would you also not attempt to help them if they got multiple sclerosis, for example, or they started going blind. I find there is often a double standard.

Re: "Did they even try to help?"

[(Anonymous)]

For example, a seriously depressed or suicidal person when you yourself have been depressed or suicidal in the past and know it might trigger you back into that state.

You know it might hurt you even if you never try and it might be the reason you never do.

Re: "Did they even try to help?"

[kallanda_lee]

If it's that very specific case, then sure, by all means keep yourself safe (though I'd still say if they're suicidal try to at least get someone who won't be triggered to help).

But, I also think it's bit of a myth you can't (by default) deal with suicidal people if you have ever been, and sometimes depressed people can actually help each other.

Once again the answer is, it depends.

Re: "Did they even try to help?"

[(Anonymous)]

Sure, maybe, but you did demonstrate the point I was trying to make.

"How do you know it might hurt you if you never tried? ... I find that sort of suspect."

Is always the judgment people who decline to help seem to get. Then things like the example that even you say is justified is treated as "an exception" or a very specific rarity, as though people who have suffered depression aren't extremely common, which they are.

It's a common reaction I noticed.

Re: "Did they even try to help?"

[kallanda_lee]

I'm not saying depression isn't common, but it's also not like anyone who ever had depression would be instantly triggered. But obviously, you know yourself best.