[ SECRET POST #3701 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3701 ⌋

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(BBC Sherlock)


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03.
[Parks and Rec]


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(Shadowhunters, Malec)


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[Judith Martin (Miss Manners)]


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(British comedian Jayde Adams)


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[Regina Mills, Once Upon a Time]











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Comments

Okay but: it's not about you.

[chardmonster]

It isn't even really about the baby. It's for the woman having the baby. If she's into that stuff, she wants that party. I wouldn't have wanted this if I were having a kid, but I wasn't the one having a kid!

These parties literally aren't about you, they're for the mom/couple.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

In that case I will keep myself and my gift home. The mom/ couple can party by themselves.

Well with that attitude

[chardmonster]

I doubt you were invited

Re: Well with that attitude

[(Anonymous)]

I will cry myself to sleep over not being invited to participate in the tacky gift grab.

Re: Well with that attitude

[chardmonster]

Again, I don't think you were invited.

Re: Well with that attitude

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sure I wasn't. All my friends are too classy for this kind of thing.

Re: Well with that attitude

[(Anonymous)]

anon wasn't even particularly rude about it you don't have to be so defensive of your family's dumb parties.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

That's why I'm saying, why not make them explicitly about the mom? Why not have a party to celebrate the mom and not have the farce of it being about gender?

Also, 1. you said surely I could understand why they would want a party then and I was just saying no not really and 2. Yeah its not about me but I don't have to go to these parties either if I don't like the concept, especially if a baby shower is also happening

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Because this is the trendy thing right now and nobody wants to be the first person to say "I am having a party to celebrate ME because I am pregnant", I mean look at how much shit women get over every little thing they do already, can you imagine how angry random strangers who don't even know you and aren't even a part of your life would get if you were just like "I am going to have a ME party"? Whereas finding out the sex of your baby is already a thing that people are interested in like literally every time I overhear a pregnant person having a conversation, or I mention someone I know who is pregnant, one of the first questions is "Do they know what it is yet?" which always makes me roll my eyes and want to respond "Yes, a pterodactyl." but like, that's the way our culture is right now and changes are often slow so they're working with what they have.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Now if someone was actually having a pterodactyl, that would be worth celebrating.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

I would go to that party, and I would willingly part with my money to buy a pterodactyl present (whatever that might be). In the meantime, I'll stay home.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean look at how much shit women get over every little thing they do already, can you imagine how angry random strangers who don't even know you and aren't even a part of your life would get if you were just like "I am going to have a ME party"?

Uh, regular baby showers have been a thing for many, many years. So have bridal showers, the main purpose of which is to celebrate the bride.

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Easy fix: The party is officially thrown by someone who isn't the mom (so her partner, her parents, a best friend, w/e) and so the invites are framed as "we are throwing a party for ___ because she's been working so hard a mom to be!"

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, but you and I have no control over this. You're free to try and start it as a trend, though?

Re: Okay but: it's not about you.

[(Anonymous)]

Um...do we not do that anymore? Because where I come from, you don't throw your own shower. Super tacky. (Your partner/parents shouldn't do it either, but that's not a hill I want to die on.)