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fandomsecrets2008-05-12 06:13 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2008-05-12 06:13 pm
[ SECRET POST #493 ]
⌈ Secret Post #493 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 14 pages, 332 secrets from Secret Submission Post #071.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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I can't imagine what you're going through. I know it has to be difficult, but what's passed is past. You didn't know those things about him at the time, and the Internet does that to people: it brings out the worst in you, makes you cold, makes you mean. It's easy to make fun of someone behind their back, and to laugh at their insanity when you don't know the full story. Once it all comes out, it almost always shocks and hurts. There's nothing you can do about what you did. But you've grieved and realized your mistake, and that should amount for SOME degree of redemption, I think.
There was no way you could have known all of that about him. I know you may think there is no excuse for how you acted, but think to yourself: what was going through your head, at the time? You thought he was just another crazy fanboy. People in fandom hate on each other and stab each other in the back all the time. He chose to take his own life. You didn't kill him. What you said may have hurt him, but he made that choice because of his fiancee leaving him. Your words were not the final straw. Take that small comfort.
If you had known the truth about him, you would have acted differently. You are not a terrible person for acting as you did. So many others are exactly the same way. People will be mean and laugh because it's easy. I do it, too. There's no use feeling torn up about it, though. It's human nature. You can't change it. You have to move on.
...Like I said, if this is who I think it is, I hope this helps...somehow.
Re: 31
(Anonymous) 2008-05-13 06:09 am (UTC)(link)Kudos to you for your post.