[ SECRET POST #3730 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3730 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Movie: 8Uppers, Actor/Singer: Nishikido Ryo]


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[Psych, Shawn/Jules]


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[Gentlemen Prefer Blondes]


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[Yuri on Ice]


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[Irish comedian Ed Byrne and the Great British Bake Off]


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[Pokemon B/W]


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[Overwatch]







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Comments

Re: Worst qualities of generally good people

[(Anonymous)]

If they didn't want me to participate, they could have left the god damn room.

And there's your fallacy. You could have left the room. Obviously your mediating doesn't work in the long-term if this is a constant problem, it just puts everyone further on edge and makes everybody angrier.

The hardest part of growing up is realizing that people fuck up their lives all the time, and you have to let them. It's not your responsibility, it's not your business. It's theirs.

Re: Worst qualities of generally good people

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is, they would never be so rude as to fight that way in front of any other guests in their home. But I'm their child and so in their mind I don't count. Regardless of the fact that I haven't been a child in a very long time.

So no, I'm not going to play the "You're being incredibly rude but I'll just inconvenience myself for the fifth time in two days so that you guys don't have to consider me at all" game with them. Particularly as whenever I'm arguing with either of them, the other never even considers keeping their opinion to themselves.

Frankly, I spent a lot of my younger years keeping silent and pretending that I wasn't aware they were arguing angrily across the mashed potatoes. Then I became an adult and realized that keeping silent never helped any more than speaking up would've, all it did was reinforce their perception that my voice and my presence could be silenced, disregarded, or summoned at their will.

Re: Worst qualities of generally good people

[(Anonymous)]

SA

Point being, I don't really care that my mediating doesn't work. I wouldn't even call it mediating, personally. Because it's not really about mediating. It's about being present and not helping others to treat you as though you're not.

But as long as the people around me don't make an ongoing habit of standing on either side of me and fighting with each other, I'm very content to stay out of it.