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⌈ Secret Post #3739 ⌋

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Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

As someone with Aspergers, I'd like to agree with everyone who has said, please don't.

Just because you find them difficult and a annoying (am I projecting?) Doesn't give you the right to unprofessionally diagnose them, and it could be hurtful enough they would be less willing even to accept a real diagnosis. In short: you are hurting, NOT helping if you insist on offering your opinion here. How would you like an unofficial (and frankly still very othering) diagnosis? Look in the mirror before you say your relative is pushy and obnoxious, if you insist on this unhelpful, unkind behavior.

Note: even an actual diagnosis often means a grieving period and a struggle to accept it. It can be helpful. But not from you.

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

If I thought I had some sort of mental illness but didn't know what and all I knew is that it was ruining my life, I'd want to know what it was. If a friend or family member had a good hunch but chose not to tell me and just let me struggle, I'd be hurt if I ever found out about it. I'm not sure my relative feels the same way, so it's unlikely I'll approach them about it. Thanks for your feedback.

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I just want to say that I totally get this, and I feel the same way.

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

In my twenties, I was suffering from a really bad bout of depression, but was too deep in to realize just how bad it was. I didn't handle it well and lashed out at people who tried to address their concerns with my behavior. The concerns were legit, my behavior was affecting my roommates and my family but I didn't want to hear it at the time. It took a close friend who's the no-BS type of person to sit me down, point out just how awful I was treating people and that it was up to me whether or not I got help, but I HAD to stop taking out my problems on friends and family.

Long story short, I did get help. It didn't save all my relationships because some were damaged beyond repair and that's 100% on me. But things could've been a lot worse if my friend hadn't taken a risk and given me that come to Jesus talk. What I'm saying is, backing off and leaving someone alone is a good suggestion for people like the OP because it's a lower risk for them. But it's not always what's best for people like the OP's relative. When a case is that bad, I don't think "othering" is a serious issue. I was already hurting, isolated and alienated from the people who loved me because of my depression. OP's relative is already hurting and estranged from their family. I get the fear of making things worse, but be honest... at some point, even a risky gamble is worth a shot.

Just my .02, anyway.