[ SECRET POST #3739 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3739 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

I know I'm coming in late to this conversation, and lots of people have told you you can't really change him if he doesn't want to change. This much is true, but...

I have aspergers. It took until my 30s to be properly diagnosed (in my own eyes, not just as i was diagnosed as a kid), because I was not ready to accept it. Now, mind you this took YEARS of people pointing out my unacceptable behavior. So if you're down to let him know what you think, be ready for a bad reaction. But put it out there, and then let it go. Don't tolerate his bad behavior. Eventually if he feels like he needs to change then he will. It took an intervention on my friend's behalf telling me that if I continued acting like I was then we couldn't remain friends, and for me that was enough to seek help. It has not always been easy, but I am grateful to them for that. Understanding myself and learning to cope has been difficult, but worth more to me than anything.

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

OP isn't asking if they should confront their relative about unacceptable behavior. They want to know if they should tell them that they're either autistic or have a Cluster B personality disorder. What you're suggesting, i.e. addressing their actual behavior instead of what OP has decided is causing the behavior, is a much better idea.

Re: Ethical dilemma...

[(Anonymous)]

Ack. Yeah, you're right. Thank you!