[ SECRET POST #3819 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3819 ⌋

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Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

You do realize that for real, actual trans people, the pronoun that corresponds to their assigned gender is the one that is going to trigger them? And that for a trans guy, that pronoun would be "she/her"? Like I don't get why this doesn't make sense to people and instead they jump to "oh they just don't want to be a girl because ew girls amiright." If you'd risk triggering someone who's telling the truth because there are so many fakers, you're a way bigger asshole than the fakers.

SA

[(Anonymous)]

And no, I don't mean all trans people are invariably triggered by their birth-assigned pronouns, but point still stands.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

da

Is it misgendering if it's only happening in my head? I almost never interact with people directly on tumblr and certainly wouldn't adress them with anything else than "you". IF I were to gossip about them with someone else, I'd use whatever pronouns they'd list on their profiles, because I guess what: I don't enjoy being an asshole. But doing the polite thing would still not quell my instant assumption of "teenage girl who hasn't realised that the performance of femininity IS a choice and CAN be done critically".

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

But doing the polite thing would still not quell my instant assumption of "teenage girl who hasn't realised that the performance of femininity IS a choice and CAN be done critically".

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it seems to me that identity, by its nature, is something that can always be changing and shifting and being reinterpreted. I don't think that people need to earn their identities by proving that they're legitimate and eternal for all time. You don't have to look at someone's identity and determine to your own satisfaction that it's their final true end state to respect that it's their current understanding of themselves, you know? I don't think taking on that mindset can ever really be done in a respectful way. Fair enough that you're not being impolite about it, but I really don't agree at all with that point of view.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I was once a teenage girl who hated fashion and make-up and the fact that I was expected to squeal over the heartthrob of the month. I'm 75% sure that if I'd been fifteen years old on tumblr today, I'd draw the conclusion that the word "nonbinary" would explain my discomfort with "femininity" as it was painted by the culture and the people around.

Yeah, I know that "you'll grow out of it" is an awfully condescending way to think about it, but it's a hard instinct to quell all the time I've been there myself.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Which part of "I don't misgender them to their faces" is too hard to understand?

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

"Okay, so she/her, then." Misgendering someone behind their back is still misgendering.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

It's not because most of them are is chicks though.