[ SECRET POST #3821 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3821 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Movie: It Comes At Night]


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03.
[iZombie]


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04.
[New Girl]


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05.
[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]


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06.
(Doctor Strange)


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07.
[Fire Emblem]











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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's possible to build a culture of encouraging self-improvement that isn't restrictive or unwelcoming. It's difficult to do when the social norm seems to be shifting toward all-positive-all-the-time and any sort of criticism (constructive or otherwise) is met with hostility. It's also difficult to encourage the type of self-reflection you're talking about with the apparently pervasive attitude of "Well, [offers excuse here] so don't criticize this."

I feel like this is maybe linked to a widespread idea that effort is not something about which one should be proud; it's the tendency to spend an hour getting dressed and doing makeup and then brushing off any compliments with "This old thing? Oh, I just threw this together." If you don't put in anything of yourself, then you can't be hurt by a rejection of it. So people pretend to put in no effort until they're actually putting in no effort, and then there's no vulnerability.

Which cycles back around to knowing how to appropriately handle constructive criticism, which is HOW ONE GROWS AS A PERSON.