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⌈ Secret Post #3827 ⌋

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[Teen Wolf, Derek Hale]

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[Sidney Crosby/Evgeni Malkin, NHL]

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(James I, Reign)

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[Joss Whedon's leaked Wonder Woman script]

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[Tara Strong]

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[LissySandwich/Bowlingotter]

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[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]

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[Legend of the Seeker]

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[Grimm]

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Yay? Nay? Why/Why not?

What has been your best/worst/overall experience?

Which sites/apps did you use?

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I met my last girlfriend on OKCupid and the relationship lasted for three years. I don't really have any horror stories.

On the other hand, it's been frustrating because of that thing where it seems like most queer women are afraid to make the first move. It's all so "let's see if we make good friends and then if something else happens, great", which is fine, but sometimes I just want to know for sure if they actually see me as a potential partner or if friendship is all they're interested in. For all the complaints about guys on there, sometimes when I'm frustrated I actually find them refreshingly direct.

I'm cool with it being a thing. I don't think there should be a stigma about meeting someone online/on an app anymore than if you bumped into someone at a club/bar and struck up a conversation.

They still started off as a stranger either way.

That said, I am terrible at online dating. I'm great up until they make signs of actually wanting to go on a REAL DATE and then I just ghost. And feel guilty.

It happens every time. I just... I know I'm going to be bad at the actual dating part.

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See, I don't think I'd make it past the "messaging/texting" part. I know I'd be awkward and I'm not terribly good at conversation...

But you never know! Maybe you'll give it a try some day, anon? You might actually be good? I was told dating takes practice anyway (I must sound like I'm 12, lol), and you get to know what you like/don't like through trial and error...sort of?

Yeah I had a few real dates of people I met... IRL? As well as a few BFs in college and it always ended up the same way. Which boiled down to (in more polite terms) "You're not needy enough."

Like apparently if you don't call or text someone at least once a day you're a terrible girlfriend. :/

I've never done it, but I probably will when I get tired of being single (not sure when that'll happen, though, I love being single!) My past relationships were with people I met at school, but now that I'm not in school, and I'm not really the bar/club type (and I'm not sure if a bar is the place to meet someone for a relationship, anyway, it seems more like somewhere to meet a one night stand), I'm not sure how to meet people other than online. Plus I have some more...uncommon things I'd want in a relationship (or at least uncommon for the red state I live in; I don't like/want kids, don't want someone religious and my sexual interests are strange as well) so the idea of being able to put all that out there on a profile and immediately filter out people who I wouldn't be compatible with appeals to me.

As far as what specific sites, I've heard good things about OK Cupid for finding long term relationships. I know a ton of people use Tinder, but from what I've heard, it seems to be mainly about one night stands/friend with benefit type situations more than serious relationships (although that could just be my friend circle, lol).

I have friends who met serious partners on Tinder. I'd try it myself but you need a Facebook account to get in, and after holding out against people badgering me to get one since high school, I'm not finally doing it just for Tinder.

Haha, well that definitely counts me out. I've also never gotten a Facebook account and I'm not getting one just for Tinder either.

Seconding what Sarilla said, I've never used Tinder, but it's where my brother met his current girlfriend.

They connected in Spring 2014 and now they live together and have cats. They actually got an apartment together, even, rather than one moving into the other's existing home.

I've never really tried it. I really need to at some point. Realistically, it's by far the most likely option if I'm ever going to find someone to be in a romantic relationship with, which is something that I'd very much like to do.

At the same time, it's very intimidating. Especially because, well, it's by far the most likely option if I'm ever going to find someone to be in a romantic relationship with. And also because like... realistically I'm really pretty physically unattractive, and the possibility exists that there just isn't anyone, and that's scary and it sucks to contemplate and would suck more to have confirmed.

I dunno I have a lot of thoughts and emotions and fears about it but that's how life goes.

I met my current bf on Tinder. Both of us are kinda inexperienced in the dating game and a little shy, so it was easier to make a move and get to know each other over a messaging service than irl, so I really like online dating for that reason. Also it was pretty easy to jump to the chase, we both know we're here because we think each other is attractive lets just talk and go see a movie. The only real problem I've had is finding girls who were really pretty but turned out to be straight and just looking for friends :c

The only real problem I've had is finding girls who were really pretty but turned out to be straight and just looking for friends :c

Yep. All the girls I liked turned out to be straight, and the one time I fell for a woman who was out as a lesbian, right after telling me she had feelings for me, she ended up deciding she wasn't gay after all and married a dude and had a kid (although I have a feeling her conservative religious family was more to blame for that than anything else).

Oh my God, anon. I'm so sorry you had that experience. :(

That would make a fascinating novel, if you felt compelled to write one.

But as it is, that sucks.

idk if my wife and I count, bc we met through mutual internet friends and our relationship was long distance/mostly-internet-based (with, like, monthly irl meetings) for 5ish years. But neither of us were looking for a relationship or anything, this was through livejournal.

Anyway, I'm fine with it being a thing, but I haven't heard that many positive stories about meeting on dating apps. idk, I understand being lonely and wanting a relationship but it seems like most 'successful' relationships start out with friendship, at least from what I've seen.

I've tried Coffee Meets Bagel and OKCupid, and I started an eHarmony account but decided not to pay for it, so now all I get is e-mails urging me to subscribe to the site.

I haven't had any luck with online dating, and it's frustrating for me because I've made my closest IRL friends online.

Coffee Meets Bagel kind of fucked with my self esteem because in order to interact, you both have to announce interest in one another, but they put a weird 24 hour time limit on: "Here are today's matches, like them or they're gone forever unless you pay us to take a second look." And my matches always struck me as out of my league, so I was nervous to like on my end, and I think I was only notified once that someone had liked me.

OKCupid was...alright, but ultimately wasn't for me, the way I feel that, at this point in time, online dating isn't for me. Some of the guys came on way too strong and the one time I made a point to reach out to someone, I was rejected, which obviously happens, but still stings.

And I honestly didn't do enough on eHarmony in my brief time setting up a "free" account to have much of an opinion.

I will say Coffee Meets Bagel was recommended to me by a friend, and she managed to go on a date through it. The date was a dud, but she got out of her comfort zone and managed to connect, even if ever so briefly, so the site has merit if it's something that interests you.

I am bad at "dating" - meeting someone with the pressure of romance stresses me out, so I prefer to go from friends to dating. So I have never successfully online dated as such, but I am pro making friends online, and if those turn into relationships that is cool.

Nah, I get it. The "meat market" feel of dating pretty much turns me off of it. My last boyfriend... let's just say I didn't even notice it happening until one day I literally woke up realizing I had a thing for him, after several months of talking and hanging out. Nothing wrong with dating in itself, but you can't put a price on a good friendship.

I met my husband through Deviantart fandom roughly ten years ago. Not really a dating site, but it was online.

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