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fandomsecrets2017-08-09 07:12 pm
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[ SECRET POST #3971 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3871 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[George R.R. Martin]
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(Anonymous) 2017-08-10 05:02 pm (UTC)(link)The thing about romantic partnerships is that it's not about whether you objectively possess good qualities but whether your particular qualities mesh with the particular qualities of a specific other individual. Since no one can be appealing to everyone, finding someone you mesh with is going to come down to luck.
A person seeking a job can apply for 10 different jobs and get rejected for all of them, and while it could mean that person isn't appealing as an employee or is going about the job-seeking process in a poor way, it could also mean that person is facing very stiff competition or that none of those 10 jobs were a great fit for the person's skills and personality. If those were the first 10 jobs they came across that seemed worth a shot, you can't really blame them for trying. It's just bad luck that they haven't been able to find an opening somewhere yet that would work better and they have a decent chance at getting.
Similarly, a person could hit on or date 10 people and get rejected by all of them, but that just may be because none of those 10 combinations generated any spark. Two people who look compatible on paper can sit down and be nice and interesting at each other and smile a lot and do everything right, and there still might not be any chemistry. It's luck that you meet someone you could be in a relationship with. You can increase your chances by trying to meet more people, but it's still luck in the end.