[ SECRET POST #3880 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3880 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

10. [WARNING for discussion of child sexual abuse]
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[(Anonymous)]

Cheers and Huzzahs, OP!

(And excellent choice of endquote.)

[(Anonymous)]

Hm, what's on the menu tonight?

STEAK.

*begins sharpening knives*

Better start runnin' Bessie.

[(Anonymous)]

Glad you were able to find a way to deal with and get past a particular trigger and struggle, OP. May fandom continue to be a fun place for you, and if people are bothered by what you write, well, that's their problem to deal with.

And I wish you well in your life in general going forward, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Good on you! Also second the awesome quote.

I am glad that you got a positive out of the Internet negative

[(Anonymous)]

Haha, nice! :)
I'm glad that it hurts less, even if the means were, uh, peculiar? Annoying?

[(Anonymous)]

The Purity Brigade would probably accuse you of lying about being a survivor in the first place, so like always it's best to just ignore what they say and take the pleasure for yourself in the knowledge of how they backhandedly helped you. And any way of coping and getting over things is good if it works! I'm happy for you, OP.

[greghousesgf]

"lying about being a survivor" sounds like it means you're dead and don't know it like Carnival of Souls

[(Anonymous)]

omg, a Carnival of Souls reference! Is it my birthday? :-3

[(Anonymous)]

What is Shalidan fic? I'm guessing Shiro/Palidan for Voltron?

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's Shiro/any Paladin, iirc?

[(Anonymous)]

Bingo.

[erinptah]

Good on you, OP.

Controlled exposure to triggers -- key word controlled -- is a legitimate therapeutic technique. And that's what you did, by choosing when to temporarily unhide these posts, and how long to leave them available before re-hiding them.

If the Tumblr purity brigade hadn't existed, you could've found other places with triggering content and used the same technique there. So they truly don't deserve any credit. This was all you.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm really glad for you, OP

Is it just me?

[(Anonymous)]

I understand why people might express discomfort regarding ships yhay feature characters in their late teens (16/17) being shipped with characters older than their mid-20's (25 or older), especially if there's other dynamics present that create a power imbalance. But a 17 y/o and a 25 y/o may be an unhealthy and unethical relationship, but it isn't pedophilic. Like I'm not trying to be one of those people who says "it's not pedophilia once she's 14, then it's ephibiophilia and therefore less bad!!!!" But we can't just decide to change words definitions so we can say we think that something is "really, really bad."

Re: Is it just me?

[(Anonymous)]

Not just you, I hate the way fandom is using pedophilia to mean 'anything with an age gap' when pedophilia is used to refer to one very specific thing (and tbh if you can't see theres a difference between a 17yo and a 7yo thats weird imo)

Re: Is it just me?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, this.

Re: Is it just me?

[(Anonymous)]

Completely agreed.

Re: Is it just me?

[(Anonymous)]

OP -
I utterly understand that age gaps like that can bother people so I would never post things like that without proper tags. Personally, like dub-con and non-con I've seen 'underage/teenage' and 'extreme underage' to describe the 14-17 range and the under 14 range. The term underage didn't ever bother me, so like avoiding the word rape for non-con to avoid potentially triggering those survivors. Also because for me at least there's a huge difference between 17 and 7 so lumping them all in under the same term seems a little wrong. Same as if in the real world a lot of dub-con would still be rape, fandom draws a line between the two in fiction.

But it's things like I used to read tons of Gundam Wing fic and being told I was worse than a real life criminal because I used to ship 3x4 and will still ship things with fictional characters like them really messed with my head for a long time. I mean, even if it's total crap it's easy to victim blame yourself and wonder what if they're right?

In the real world there's a lot of stuff that would very much be unhealthy, or would potentially be really unhealthy. But like yesterday's discussion of erotica being better when it's not 100% realistic I'm ok with no surprise poo in my fictional anal sex or a fictional teenager and a fictional young adult having a healthy fictional relationship.

Re: Is it just me?

[digitalghosts]

I also can see why people might be uncomfortable and you cannot see inside people in question heads to see if anyone is manipulated or not. I guess this is why people simplify plus it is easier to get your point across using stronger words.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd find the accusations of "pedophilia" in fandom funnier if they didn't come with the threat of being ostracized and/or doxxed if you piss off the wrong person.

I'm all for people hating on underage pairings or pairings with large age gaps if they want to hate-- I can't stop them. Hell I hate on some of those pairings myself. It's the bizarre jump between fiction and reality that is scary.

[dahli]

I'm glad you're doing better, op! You do you!

[arcadiaego]

Well done!

[kitty_fic]

Awesome use of the quote!