[ SECRET POST #3885 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3885 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, that makes sense. So it does still sound like a failure to communicate in general, but mostly because he's too set in his own ways to think about things from another vantage point. Does that extend to other parts of your relationship, or is it mostly just the intimacy thing? Would it be at all helpful to have a conversation (at a neutral time, when you're feeling okay and he's not being too over-affectionate) about how the fact that he's not trying to see your point of view without tinting it with his own is hurting you? It may put him on the defensive, admittedly.

[syncing_feeling]

We're pretty good in most other respects, this is the main issue that I can't seem to get him to understand. On top of everything else I'm his first partner, so I can see how it could be weird for him to suddenly have to deal with someone else's trauma/issues so intimately. I've come with more baggage than he probably imagined his first relationship having, haha. It's new territory for him so I'm trying to work with him. We have spoken about my discomfort thing before but I think I'll have to sit down with him tomorrow and go over it again in more depth.

Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it. x

[(Anonymous)]

I hope it works out, I really do. ♥ I hope he's open to discussion; that can always be a hurdle for some people. But if he means it, he'll keep working. It may not be an overnight change, of course, but baby steps always count. Keep us updated!