[ SECRET POST #3887 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3887 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Bad advice you've seen people give?

[(Anonymous)]

"Relationships take work!"

Ok, it seems really harmless on its own, and it's true, but I've almost never seen it used in a healthy manner. I'm a lot more likely to see it spouted by/at miserable people to justify their partner treating them like shit and all the hoops they have to jump through to appease them. It's almost never aimed at the shitty person having to work at being a better person.

Like, I dunno, I'm more likely to see

"So my partner lost their job and they're depressed about it so they sit home all day on the couch watching TV and throwing garbage everywhere and I go to work for eight hours and then come home and clean up their mess and do the dishes and cook dinner and do laundry and I'm so tired and miserable all the time and when I try to bring up them helping out a little they yelled at me I was pressuring them too much."
"That sucks sweetie, but relationships take work!"

And not "That sucks sweetie, they need a swift kick in the ass and to get their act together because relationships take work!"

Like I'll see the second, but never with the 'relationships take work!' added on. It seems to be exclusively to tell people you think they shouldn't be whining. (As an aside, I think 'relationships take work' is kind of misleading because it's like... your favorite hobby takes work. So yes knitting means driving around for supplies and yarn being expensive and losing your needles sometimes and realizing you made a stitch wrong at the beginning and having to frog your entire project, but it's still a source of joy and the work is worth it even when it takes effort and even when the occasional thing is stressful)