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⌈ Secret Post #3998 ⌋

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Re: Is there anyone else who's over 25 and still is unsure of their sexuality?

[(Anonymous)]

My problem is, is that I'm pretty sure I'm like... some subset of ace but since some of the gatekeeping I've seen about ace people not being allowed to masturbate/having NO sex drive at all makes me wonder if I'm not, that I just don't like the idea of sex with people... other than me?

For what it's worth, I'm the same way, and I consider myself ace. I'm kind of hesitant to completely 100% embrace the asexual community because there's all sorts of weird gate keeping but at the same time, an unwillingness to completely define terminology. I've seen this "you're asexual if you want to consider yourself that way, there's no criteria you have to meet" attitude which is completely unlike any of the other sexuality labels. I mean, I've seen people say they'd specifically NOT WANT to be in a non-sexual romantic relationship, but still consider themselves asexual and counter with "but it only means you're not sexually attracted to anyone!" and I personally feel like sexual attraction is completely meaningless if it doesn't affect whether or not you want sexual relationships. I feel like "not interested in sexual relationships" would be a far more logical and less muddled/confusing definition for asexuality (I mean, if someone says "I'm gay", everyone knows what that means, there's not really any confusion, which isn't the case for asexuality as the label is currently used).

Anyway, yeah. To me masturbation is a biological impulse/drive, and there's no reason to involve anyone else in it. The asexual label isn't perfect, but it fits me better than any of the others.