[ SECRET POST #4082 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4082 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Quellcrist Falconer in Altered Carbon]


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03.
[Grace and Frankie]


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04.
[Fanart of Ashara Dayne from ASOIAF]


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05.
[Hack/Slash]


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06.
[Kevin Smith]


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07.
[Final Fantasy XIII]












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rant, don't mind me

[(Anonymous)]

so ive hit it off with this guy online and it's going great and is doing wonders for my depression but

he's someone i used to be super wary about based on hearsay/my own experiences with him and

my basically best friend also knows him and only knows him through me talking badly about the guy

so now i don't know how to explain how this happened or why i "suddenly" like him.

worse, said friend had/has(?) a crush on me and he's expressed in the past that he doesn't wasn't to know about things like that

but the online community is not that big and at the very least if i go on vacation to visit the guy i don't want to lie about what im doing to my friend, so sooner or later it will come up

it's such an annoying situation i just want to enjoy this

Re: rant, don't mind me

[(Anonymous)]

i am so sorry i did not realise i had written this much

Re: rant, don't mind me

[(Anonymous)]

You can avoid the topic with your friend without lying.

Re: rant, don't mind me

[(Anonymous)]

I think a few things to consider are:

* What's changed about Online Guy from when you heard and experienced negative things about him? I don't mean YOUR feelings. I mean has he actually demonstrated through his changed behavior that he's not the same person you had negative experiences with in the past?

* Is your depression altering how you see him? You're at a vulnerable moment right now. Is it causing you to ignore red flags about Online Guy?

* Have you considered that a major reason why you want to avoid talking about Online Guy with BFF is because you're having trouble justifying talking to Online Guy, given his past behavior? And because BFF knows about his past behavior (from you) and would be able to hold you accountable?


If you do visit Online Guy, please make sure you have a back up plan for getting out of the situation. Don't rely on him for accommodations or transportation. Make sure you have enough money to finance this trip and to extricate yourself in case of an emergency.

Re: rant, don't mind me

[(Anonymous)]

thank you for your concern! i do realise it's all a bit iffy, but being super scared of getting burned is the number one reason why im stuck in this depression, so for the most part im trying not to worry. what's the worst that could happen and all that.

i don't think there's anything about him that is so bad i couldn't justify it in front of my friend, my main concern is hurt feelings. of course i could be totally off, but i don't think if they got mad about it it would be for my sake.

and ill make sure to stay safe of course! it would not be the first time i visit strangers i met on the internet.