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fandomsecrets2008-07-24 05:00 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2008-07-24 05:00 pm
[ SECRET POST #566 ]
⌈ Secret Post #566 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 86 secrets from Secret Submission Post #081.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 2 3 4 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
149
I'm impressed that you posted this, that's already a step. I wasn't even going to comment tonight, but I saw this and absolutely had to. Listen, I spent nearly four years just lurking in LJ coms before joining in. I told myself that I didn't want to participate because fandom was nerdy, and not actually joining in would set me apart. Riiiiiiiight. xD What was really going on inside my head is what seems to be going on inside yours - terrified of speaking up, being laughed at, sounding stupid or boring. I mean, there is a lot of talent in fandom. Funny people. Smart people. It can be pretty intimidating sometimes. But really, once I started participating, I think it gave me a huge boost. Not only was I happier just interacting with people and getting positive reactions, but I started to come out of my shell in public little by little. Now looking back, I can't even believe that was me back then. I don't think we can ever be "cured," persay, I think we'll always have this, but it can get much, much easier to deal with. Lately I've forgotten I even have it (so maybe we can be "cured" - who knows?)
Well this is getting to be very much the teal deer, but I just have to say - I hope you know that nearly everyone I've met in fandom is incredibly nice, and that just a little bit of effort goes a long, long way. You could start out here, where there's a good chance someone will reply to a comment or two of yours. If you see a secret you agree with, or have something to say about - say it!! Maybe there's someone out there who feels exactly the same way you do, and you'll make a friend (it's happened more than a few times to me). Start out small, and work your way up once you feel more confident. If you write fic - post it!! I think that's what's helped me the most - posting my art (which at first felt like ripping off a part of my soul and sticking it into a blender) and getting positive feedback. If it makes you feel better, post your fic under a sock account, if you don't want people to know it's you.
Oh god, this is getting EMBARRASSINGLY long now. xD I don't know if you're into any of my fandoms, but even if you aren't, feel free to PM me, friend me, email me (ana_ng_and_i@yahoo.com), whatever. I would absolutely love to hear back from you to see how you're doing with this. It might seem like you'll never get better - there was a time where I doubted I'd ever be able to have a normal conversation, but it's almost like second nature now. So even if you don't want to comment back, just know I'm thinking about you. Good luck, and don't feel weird about fandom as a motivator - it works. :)
Re: 149
(Anonymous) 2008-07-25 04:47 am (UTC)(link)Re: 149
Even if you have a fear of participating in fandom, fears can be overcome. The hardest part is just starting. After that it's downhill, it really is. :] Plus, unless you're trolly or obscenely obnoxious (like posting five billion rick rolls to a com, all in separate posts) no one is going to say, "omg yur fic iz retardid," and if someone does, they've no doubt got *way* more problems than you have. There are some really insane people in fandom, but no one is going to look at a comment you post and say, "I can tell from the vibrations you emit from the astral plane that you have a lot of anxiety about participating. Go crawl back in your hole, dammit!"
Promise. :D
149 OP
(Anonymous) 2008-07-26 06:42 pm (UTC)(link)Making a sockpuppet account for fic is a pretty good idea. I'd thought of it before, though I always put it off, but I think I might just go and give it a try, now.
And I'm actually tempted to take you up on the friending thing (Heroes is one of my fandoms too, actually, though I don't really write for it), but
I'm too chicken to[insert perfectly reasonable excuse here]. I really appreciate the offer, though :)Again, thanks alot. I've never really met another person with avoidance either, so it's nice to hear from someone else with it :)
Re: 149 OP