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What's a concept that you see in media (including fic) that seems to be portrayed as a common experience, but that you can't identify with and/or don't see actually happen that much?

I'll post mine below as an example.

The concept of an adult over, say, 30 going to their parents’ house and there’s their childhood bedroom and it still has some of their childhood stuff in it. I see this in fic a lot in stories about one half of a ship going to meet the other half’s parents, but it also pops up in other media, like in BvS when Lois is lying on Clark’s childhood bed.

I recently realized that I have zero experience with this in real life. Not to say that it doesn’t happen, but it’s kind of foreign to me.

We moved houses my senior year of high school, so the room that was my childhood bedroom is in a house now owned by strangers. My parents still live in house #2, but when I got my first Real Job (tm) post-grad school and got an apartment in another city, they made it very clear that I would be taking ALL my stuff (along with some spare furniture they wanted to get rid of). The only lingering evidence of me in what used to be my room is the color I painted the walls (very 90s faux aged plaster with stenciling around the ceiling… yeah, they need to paint over that).

My grandparents all moved when they retired, so my parents’ childhood bedrooms similarly disappeared at that point (my mother’s family had already moved when she was a tween and then her bedroom got re-appropriated by one of her 4 siblings when she left for college).

My friends tend to have similar stories. Either their childhood home is no longer owned by the family, or else my friends took all their stuff when they moved out, including their old posters and toys.

Yeah, the whole concept feels rather strange. Most people can't waste rooms like that.

My parents still live in the same house, but when we (the kids) moved out, my room was converted into a study room and my sister's room was redecorated as well. I don't know anyone who would have kept the kids' rooms as they were.

Yeah, I've always found that trope so weird. My room got turned into a television room, and my brother's is a guest room and office. Who just leaves a room empty and never touches it?

People who don't have anything better to do with the space, I guess.

This. After my mother and her siblings moved out, my grandma ended up living alone in a house big enough for seven people, so she turned one of the now empty bedrooms into a sewing room but the others remained as they were.

my parents don't live in the same house they did when I was a kid. I remember having to explain this to a woman in a class I was in because I mentioned visiting my parents for Thanksgiving a couple of years ago and she was all "oh you're going home for the holidays" and I go "no, it's not my home, just theirs" and she acted like she had no idea what I meant

Shit, my parents didn't even wait until I got a job and moved out. As soon as I left for college, they cleared it out and gave my bedroom to my younger sister. I had to sleep in her old room on summer vacation,which still had her toys from childhood.

Having a boyfriend or a husband. I am/have been severely unlucky in that aspect of life.

feel ya

Yep, or even dating. I’m 34 and still not sure how that works.

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(Anonymous) - 2018-05-18 02:05 (UTC) - Expand

Yep. I think it's more awkward that I can't relate to my friends having them IRL and concepts like falling in love and being in a super serious relationship with someone you met like a month or two ago. That is a stranger. Why are you letting it move in with you.

Evidently I don't work like that. My spontaneity is defunct.

"it"

Re: Fictional Experiences You Can't Identify With

(Anonymous) - 2018-05-18 04:15 (UTC) - Expand

Ugh, I don't get it either. My sister finds it romantic when her daughter does shit like this, and I'm like, "She's barely twenty, you're her mother, shouldn't you say something?" And then I get screamed at for not accepting the girl is an adult who can make her own choices instead of being an aunt who's worried.

Re: Fictional Experiences You Can't Identify With

(Anonymous) - 2018-05-18 04:07 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Fictional Experiences You Can't Identify With

(Anonymous) - 2018-05-18 04:27 (UTC) - Expand

The whole meeting the parents being a big, super important thing. Maybe it's because all of my relationships started off as friendships, but both of the long-term boyfriends I've had met my parents in a casual way before our relationship became serious. The same goes for me meeting their parents.

I *hate* that trope. I hate it being made this huge deal, and i hate it when immediately the parent(s) start saying or doing stuff that's either actually embarrassing, embarrassing only if you're a twat, or asking the bf/gf really personal questions.

So not my experience with my (only) bf.

While I haven't had a boyfriend yet, I don't think it'd necessarily be a big deal for me to have him meet my parents/family. Mostly because I'm really close to my family, usually at a family event, and I still live with my family...so unless we're gonna be out/at his place constantly...but I understand it being important. I wouldn't just bring over some rando...we'd have tyo be going out for a bit/be comfortable with saying that we're together.

Now my family's feelings...lol. I feel like they'd fuss a little (not in a bad way, just in a FINALLY way), because they may assume I'm gonna be a cat lady or a nun at this point...

I'm an aro ace, so everything romance related.

Also, when characters get a job by doing some random thing indtead of filling out applications and interviewing.

Random action > interviewing and endless annoying online applications

I'm still waiting to be spotted on the street by a legit director or modeling agent...

anything involving having kids

Yep. I understand that some people want them, but I can't for the life of me understand WHY.

Having a family who talk to each other about their lives just because it's a thing they do.

Having people take care of you when you're sick.

Having a place where everyone gets together to hang out, even as adults.

High school.

I was homeschooled on-and-off for all of elementary school, took part-time classes grades 8 and 9, entirely online school for grade 10, took half of grade 11 off and then went to a wilderness school for the rest of the year + grade 12, where I'm just about finishing up, having somehow managed to scrape up enough credits along the way.

So everything to do with typical public school experiences -- classes that aren't optional (you can't just... drop out of it's not working for you?), cafeterias, lots of homework, clubs, dances, proms.... anything that is typical of high school is pretty much completely foreign and baffling to me. With the added element of being Canadian so a lot of it is just USA-centric and I don't even know it, because I... don't have a basis of comparison....

(this was somewhat amusing when I went to seattle last month because someone asked what grade I was in and I said grade 12 and she was like "oh, you're a senior then!" no. i am not a senior, i'm a grade 12 (sort of) who goes to a wilderness school where grades are basically irrelevant anyway.)

I never went to a single school dance in high school. They come up in media so often that I feel like I know what they're like, but i never had the desire to go when I was that age.

I went to my prom, but at my school that was the only dance, and it was just once a year. So I don't get it when they have themed dances all the time.

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