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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2018-08-12 02:59 pm

[ SECRET POST #4239 ]


⌈ Secret Post #4239 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[2018 Chinese tv-drama Guardian]


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[Amy Adams in Sharp Objects]


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[Martian]


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[Castle Rock]


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[The Girl Next Door & Watching the Detectives]


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[Criminal Minds]







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(Anonymous) 2018-08-13 04:56 am (UTC)(link)
I can try. But my parents are adamant about me applying for work only within my field. They don’t want me “wasting” my time with day jobs because they’re financially supporting me so why should I worry about that? And they treat me almost like I’m selfish if I apply for temp/day jobs because I don’t know. Like I’m turning down their help if I try to support myself. They say they want me to be independent but they keep doing and saying things that undermine me feeling like I’m capable of leading an independent life. When I got fired my first thought was “now my parents are going to have even more evidence to prove I can’t take care of myself and maybe they’re right I can’t take care of myself if I fucked up this badly”

(Anonymous) 2018-08-13 02:13 pm (UTC)(link)
I mean... they can't put conditions on you being independent. That's not how it works. You don't "get" to be independent on their terms. You're either independent or you're not. You can stay with them under their terms if you wanted to. Of course, being independent doesn't guarantee whatever cushy conditions they're currently offering, and you may very well be scraping by for a while. That doesn't mean it isn't worth trying.

Not sure what country you're in, but if you're an adult in the US (and I'm assuming several other nations... haven't had my coffee this morning, sorry), they can't keep you there.