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What are some things you didn't realize weren't normal, either because your family always did it when you were growing up, it was a habit no one ever corrected you about, whatever the reasons, what were those things?

A lot of the poor people food we ate growing up. Like chip covered chicken.

Wait, that's poor people food? My family's rich and they love that shit.

According to the internet, yes. :(

That's not considered poor people food here either. I don't know where you live, but in the south stuff like that is super common, even among people with money.

It may be a product of both having older parents, and those older parents having spent most of their lives poor, but I was floored by how many kids and parents future-plan with school activities and social stuff in the well-off school district I went to. It didn't occur to my parents this would be a good idea, because it wasn't an option when and where they grew up, and it didn't occur to me because I'm not a social creature by habit. By the time any of us noticed it was too late.

I didn't know people bought clothes and shoes without waiting for them to go on sale. I was shocked when my friend bought a coat she liked without waiting for it to go on sale or at least using a coupon.

IA, that's still wild to me.

Word. If your size gets sold out before clearance, well, it just wasn't meant to be.

My relationship with my mother.

God, same. I actually found out through F!S that my parents weren't normal. A few people had commented before that, but I figured they just didn't know them like I did. But then I posted a secret about fictional parents being unrealistic, and the flood of comments like "what the fuck do you mean 'real' parents would never ever listen to anything their kids had to say?" kind of drove it in.

Yup.

Who knew parents had zero business in their kids' finances after they turned 18? Oh, everybody knew? Well, nobody sure as hell told me.

Having a big house. I was baffled the first time I went to a friend's place and they only had one floor. I thought kids who had to share bedrooms were unlucky because their parents didn't want to give them each their own for some reason, not because they couldn't afford it. I didn't (and still kind of don't) comprehend how a family can get by with just one bathroom. I didn't even know apartments were a thing.

Surprisingly, I didn't grow up into a Republican.

I lived in a house with one bathroom when I was a kid. Everyone had a designated shower time, but other than that, it was pretty much whoever got up early and/or ran to the bathroom fastest got to take a dump first.

I live in an apt bldg and some little kid recently yelled at me because he thought I shouldn't be living in his babysitter's place. Apparently he thinks she lives in the whole building, not just her own apartment.

I'm kind of the opposite. My childhood house had three floors and two bathrooms and my brother and I had our own bedrooms and I never considered it small, until my mom got a girlfriend from a rich family who constantly goes on and on about how small it is.

Walking around barefoot at home and outdoors in summer. I did kind of realise young enough that people didn't like me walking barefoot in shops and things, but it really did surprise me later on how much people are weirded out by me being barefoot in the house, or walking the dog barefoot in summer, or what have you.

Also, sitting on the floor a lot. At home it's fairly common for my family to sit on the floor if need be, even for dinner, because we often eat together in the sitting room and it's easier to do that on the floor where you can lay things out. But in my Nan's house it's only acceptable to sit on the floor if you're, like, five or under, and a few other places I've sat down on the floor because we ran out of chairs or whatever a good few people seem upset about it.

Wait what. Who wears shoes in the house? That's disgusting. Think about what you're tracking in...

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I still walk around barefoot a lot because I don't like shoes, but I don't think I could walk my dog barefoot because stupid people like to smash their glass bottles on the sidewalks and the asphalt's burning hot for most of the day.

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That's not abnormal at all here, at least the indoors part (outdoors people would be worried about stepping on sharp things/burning their feet since it gets super hot here). I don't think I know anyone who wears shoes indoors (or at least if they do, they don't think it's weird that other people don't).

And sitting on the floor is not considered weird here either. It's super common to have meals on the floor because it's easier in certain circumstances, and people make jokes about "having a picnic". People like your nan exist, but they're considered uptight and needlessly prim and proper, not that they're normal and everyone else is weird.

Honestly, I think a lot of the things in this thread are regional/cultural.

Parents who treated you like kids even when you were an adult. I used to think that the whole parents as friends of their adult kids was only a thing in movies.

Doing anything unsupervised as a teenager. My junior year of high school (my sister was only 1 grade behind) we had someone who came and stayed with us and watched us when my parents went away for a few days.

I didn’t know light touch wasn’t painful for everyone, I just assumed no one talked about it. Apparently not.

Tmi but

Apparently it’s not normal for bowel movements to be associated with intestinal cramping, or to be constipated then have diarrhea every week or two, and I “might have ibs” or whatever.

Not being allowed out of the house alone.

Not believing in religion, not buying anything new unless the thing being replaced was falling apart/off—and even then, usually buying secondhand. Only owning one pair of shoes at a time. Eating popcorn with milk like cereal. Not having designated “breakfast” foods like pancakes or cereal—whatever food there was got eaten whenever. Having meat as an occasional flavoring and not the main part of a meal. Believing white sugar and white flour (and white people when I and my parents were white, but dad may have had a point there) were evil. Cars were a necessary evil

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