[ SECRET POST #4282 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4282 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Colette]


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03.
[Sara Sidle on CSI]


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04.
[Criminal Minds]


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05.
[Step by Step, Cody/Dana]


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06.
[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]


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[Mad Men]











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Comments

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

you're wrong for assuming that your experience is universal, basically

and that all the people who are saying "dismissing all value in labels hurts me" are just, idk drinking the kool-aid of "label nonsense" just because it isn't valuable to YOU

humans are a highly social and linguistic species, and for many people, being able to define their identity in terms that connect them to other people who share their experiences is a hugely important and validating PART of "living how they wish", and also a hugely important part of successfully expressing their wants, needs, and identity to people who don't share it

"trans" was hugely important to my brother when he was explaining to my dad, a Chill Feminist Dude, that he wouldn't be *happy* just being butch/a tomboy, that it was about something more than gender roles. and finding other people who used that label talking about their experiences was probably also important to him in figuring out that was what would make him happy himself!

A beautiful person is NOT just a beautiful person. My brother told me that one of the experiences that really confirmed his identity to himself, was when he got All Dressed Up for junior prom before transition. He looked in the mirror and thought, very clearly: "That person is a beautiful person, but it's not me." All his experience of hating his appearance was not about our culture teaching women to hate their bodies, it was just that it was the wrong body. He wasn't a beautiful person. He's a beautiful man. And he needed trans to bridge that gap.

If you still can't understand, then you should consider that your lack of understanding is less important than not hurting people by insisting that your opinion on something you can't understand is more important than their hurt.

TL:DR - as any cat will tell you, finding a box that fits and getting in it yourself is very different from someone else putting you in box. And if there are a bunch, sometimes humans are going to trip over a box that someone else loves very much.

(Does tumblr get extreme and silly about it sometimes? Sure. But that's kind of what teenagers are supposed to do. I say as long as their aren't suicide baiting people, let them explore and be as silly as they want.)

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. This this this this THIS.

Re: +1

[cakemage]

Very well said!

Re: +1

[ayebydan]

nailed it