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Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

I am throwing my sister a baby shower and have the invites for her to pass around at work to the people she has worked with for 1+ years. One of her co-workers told her it was rude not to invite another co-worker she has been working with for 4+ years.

But, my sister HATES this woman. The co-worker has literally brought my sister to tears with her behavior. People have literally quit that job because they hate working with this person. But this co-worker will never be fired because she is the boss's wife's best friend.

So should we invite her (and hope she does not come) or not invite her?

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

Never ever invite someone on the hopes they'll decline. It always ends badly. That said:

1. You are never obligated to invite every friend or co-worker to everything, BUT
2. It's best if you're not, to hand out the invitations in a private manner rather than standing in front of Stephanie and saying, "Hey Camille, here's your invite to my baby shower! Oh hi Stephanie. Bye."

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. Be discreet and use common etiquette - don't invite people to something in front of others, unless the others can come, too.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

I told her to give the invites out after work instead of during.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

That's probably best. :) This is also where email can come in handy too if she doesn't have home addresses she could mail them to (or if times an issue where mailing them would take too long).

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[tabaqui]

What anon said. DO NOT invite the person your sister hates (and has been hurt by) to the shower.

DO invite people in a discreet manner so as not to make a scene.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

That is what I told her. Just invite them after work.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

Don't invite that bitch. This is a happy occasion for your sister, and she should be surrounded by people who care about her and support her. People who treat others like shit shouldn't get invited to things. The other coworker who says it's rude should mind her damn business, it's not HER party, she doesn't get to decide who gets invited.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

That is what I think, but I also don't have to work with the person.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

If there are going to be professional repercussions, that's a separate issue. But keeping invites discreet should help. Or your sister can ask people for their contact info and you can send them directly so she's not directly involved.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

Yeah, that seems to be the best plan.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with the other person on both counts. You don't have to invite anyone you don't want to invite. It's supposed to be a nice day for your sister, and this only people she likes should be invited. However, if you're not going to invite everyone at work, I don't think it's a good idea to hand out the invites at work. I mailed all of my sister's baby shower invites. If that's not an option, make sure the invites are handed out very discretely. Especially as it sounds like this person could get really nasty if she finds out everyone else has been incited except for her.

Re: Baby Shower Invitations

[kaijinscendre]

Yeah, I am going to tell her to pass them out after work. I can see if she can get their addresses though.