[ SECRET POST #4396 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4396 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Orwell: Ignorance is Strength]


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03.
[Russell Howard, "Recalibrate"]


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[D. L. Hughley, Jimmy Carr and Katherine Ryan on The Fix on Netflix]


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05.
[A Star is Born]


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[John Malkovich as Hercule Poirot in The ABC Murders]


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[Andrew Knowlton, restaurant editor for Bon Appétit magazine and host on The Final Table]


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08.
[Exo/Cross Fire - Fonda Lee]








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Comments

Re: Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I've always hated dating. The idea of it, the reality of it, just the whole of it.

I just hate the formality of it; a series of mutually arranged upon occasions during which two people attempt to discern if they're interested in each other romantically/sexually. For me dating is always going to feel glaringly like an artificial construct.

I want to be able to just hang out and get to know people naturally, without it being about anything else. Without that pretext of "we're both checking to see if we want to have sex and go steady."

And if I do have feelings for a person, then my desire to get to know them naturally, without it being about anything else, is all the stronger. Dating when I have fledgling feelings for a person just feels like taking something that is wild and sensitive in me and sticking it under harsh lights and making it perform tawdry little tricks or something,

Not that I'm hating on people who do enjoy dating. I know I'm in the minority here. I'm borderline ace (and maybe kinda demi?) anyway, so that probably affects my feelings on the matter.


Given how I feel about dating, my ideal "date" would be something like a week-long camping trip with a group of friends and acquaintances. (We wouldn't have arranged it with each other, we'd just be two people who happened to both go on this same camping trip.) Me and this person, my not!date, could spend a lot of time together, talking and doing group activities and working together to accomplish the inevitable tasks of camping, and generally just kind of feeling each other out.

I realize this isn't practicable. But it would be lovely.