[ SECRET POST #4406 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4406 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Would this be a friendship dealbreaker

[(Anonymous)]

When I have a complaint about a co-worker's, then I discuss the issue directly with that coworker if I'm comfortable enough with them to do so, or I go to HR or management depending on the issue - that's what they're for. What good does bitching about it to someone else do? Won't solve the problem, and it'd make me feel disgusting. This is not easy for me, and this kind of communication was a super hard habit to develop. And yeah, I sometimes have the HUGE impulse to hop abord the gossip train again, because gawd that's braincandy, but ... yeah, I have vivid memories of overhearing shit like that about myself and I never want to have even the slightest possibility of causing someone else that kind of pain. So yes, I'm a ascetic when it comes to behind-their-back chatting.

Sure, sometimes I'll discuss a mutual friend's issues with someone, but that'd be more of a "I'm worried about X, have you noticed that, too? What can we do / how can we help?" thing rather than, "omg, wow, I can't believe she did X" thing.

And before you ask, yes, being this strict with myself and with what I tolerate in my friend-circle does mean I have a very small, but therefore very close and intimate circle. And I'm okay with that.

Re: Would this be a friendship dealbreaker

[(Anonymous)]

I'm glad! (and I don't mean that sarcastically at all, I really am glad that you strive to be the better person in situations like that).

I honestly really only gripe about co-workers to one person, because it never leaves our office, and it's only about stuff that I have repeatedly complain to my bosses about but has gone nowhere for whatever reason. I should probably feel bad about it, but these are the kind of people who do not take confrontation of any sort well (one woman actually blew up in my face for saying 'hey how are you, I haven't seen you today') so it's easier for me to basically bitch about it and let it go than let it sit inside me all the time.