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⌈ Secret Post #4412 ⌋

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[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]

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[Haunted (on Netflix), "The Slaughterhouse"]

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[Criminal Minds]

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[The Promised Neverland]

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[British rapper Big Narstie]

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[Criminal Minds season 4, episode 13, "Bloodline"]

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[Angelina Jolie in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider]

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Honestly, reading this I think you sound mature and willing enough for the considerable sacrifices necessary. I think it's pretty clear that your wish for a child is genuine and you have the responsibility needed to carry it through. If the only hesitation you have is that you haven't necessarily bonded with other children up until now, you might find you feel very differently when you actually have your own child.

Of more importance I think is the issue of local support. Being a single mother is already hard, but to do it with few family or close friends around to provide a support network does introduce the risk of you becoming isolated and overwhelmed. Having a newborn is extremely isolating and I barely coped even with a partner to look out for me, make sure I was able to get meals or the occasional shower... Small things like finally getting the baby latched after a whole hour trying, then realising you are parched but now you're trapped and can't get up for another hour. Someone around to help with those small things is totally invaluable. I think the most important thing you should think about establishing before you embark on parenthood is some kind of support network in place to safeguard your own physical and mental well-being.

Edited 2019-02-02 22:36 (UTC)

Thank you for the vote of confidence <3

I can take time off from work until the hypothetical baby would be old enough for daycare, and I know my parents would be happy to take me in for a few months. The thing I'm hesitant about is what comes after. My social life is still in a place where I only meet people through a common hobby once a week, so the thing I'm afraid of is that if I don't have that, I'll have no life outside of work and home. Which I understand is the norm for a lot of parents with small children, but at least most of them have partners.

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