[ SECRET POST #4423 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4423 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

She told Harry to report it. He refused. So she reported it. Do you see how that could be viewed as exercising control over Harry's life when he had expressed his desire for her to stay out of it?

[(Anonymous)]

OK, there's a literal sense in which it is an attempt to control Harry's life, but I don't think it's a pejorative in the way that we're using 'controlling' here. I don't think, you know, if my friend kept me from drinking poison, I don't think it would be justified to call them "controlling" for that.

[(Anonymous)]

Hermione is controlling.

Harry is defiant.

I don't care who is in the right or wrong. Clearly both qualities have their place. I'm just saying the two don't mix well.

[(Anonymous)]

If your friend contrived to have you involuntarily committed because of your alcohol addiction, you would be entirely justified in calling them controlling. They stopped you from drinking the poison, and also they were controlling. It's not an either/or situation.

[(Anonymous)]

If your friend contrived to have you involuntarily committed because of your alcohol addiction, you would be entirely justified in calling them controlling.

That seems like an over-strong analogy...

[(Anonymous)]

Ok. They are THIRTEEN. Hermione did the right thing. Hermione did the thing that we WANT kids to do, go to an adult. Saying that it's controlling sends the opposite message so kids won't do the right thing when it comes to say, abuse or cutting (Self-harm) of another person.

It even played out realistically this way in the book. Hermione told McGonagall about the Firebolt, McGonagall checked it over, it was fine, Harry got the broom back. BUT Harry and Ron socially punished Hermione. Her message, don't go to adults even if things turn okay. AKA Don't be a tattle tale.

So, YEAR FIVE, Umbridge comes along with her Dark Quill and uses it to punish the students. NO ONE TELLS Dumbledore. Not even HERMIONE. Why? Harry asked her not to do so. And she'd already done this "betrayal" thing once, and he punished it for it. So, she didn't do it again even though we KNOW Dumbledore would have stopped it.

It's not controlling behavior. It's called integrity and doing the right thing no matter what. Saying Hermione was 'controlling' is undermining the whole movement against bullying and abuse and those who self-harm so they can get HELP.

[(Anonymous)]

So it's okay to take agency away from bullied and marginalized kids as long as you're very smart and think that you know what's best for them. Got it.

[(Anonymous)]

So to be clear, you're saying that Hermione did the wrong thing in the Firebolt instance? And you think there's never a case where it's necessary or justified to take away someone's agency in their own interest?

[(Anonymous)]

yeah for example if someone us trying to kill or harm themselves you are right to take agency away from them what is your damage lmao sometimes people do stupid shit