[ SECRET POST #4445 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4445 ⌋

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[Project Runway]


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[Glee]


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[James Bond: Die Another Day]


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Comments

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

Same. I think a lot of people do this.

I believe a fair chunk of this person's list. I mean, I find it kind of obnoxious, but I do believe a good chunk of it. However, I do question that particular point. I'm kind of skeptical that anyone actually says "ouch!" out of empathy for the object they bumped into. It seems like the 'zebras' explanation for that knee-jerk reaction, whereas "It's a reflex we have when something could easily have hurt us, and very closely mimics events that caused us pain in the past," seems like the 'horses' explanation.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[rosehiptea]

Some of it does seem like stuff a lot of people do though. I mean lots of people cry over books and physically cringe at stuff on the TV.

I'm not trying to judge whoever made the list harshly and if people want to say they have hyper empathy they can go ahead, but some of this stuff sounds so normal to me. The part about overhearing an argument and getting that upset does sound like a problem though.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not trying to judge whoever made the list harshly and if people want to say they have hyper empathy they can go ahead, but some of this stuff sounds so normal to me.

I know what you mean but I think it's often tough, with stuff like this, to figure out if it actually is normal, or if you just assume everyone does it because you do.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[rosehiptea]

The other day I had to turn the sound off during a particularly cringe-worthy part of a comedy TV show, so I may have more features on this list than some people. (That was unusual for me though.)

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

I have to do that all the time, honestly.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

The "until your nose bleeds" when overhearing a random argument seems... extreme. As well as having a meltdown if you're not able to do any of the things on the list. Really? If you can't apologize to a chair you bumped, you're going to have a total meltdown?

Re: Tumblr cringe

[rosehiptea]

True, the meltdown part is also extreme.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I know what you mean. Some of these definitely do seem like normal things everyone does.

I think what gives me pause, a little, is that my father does several of these. Not so much the crying ones, but he genuinely does have a thing about stuffed animals where he can't stand for them to be lying in an awkward position or - heaven forbid - on the floor, because he just feels so bad for them. He'll pick them up and talk to them a little and put them in a comfortable position from which they can see the room. (He knows it's a quirk, and he probably could resist the urge to do it, but he would keep thinking about that poor stuffed animal on the floor.)

He also can't handle awkward or embarrassing scenes in TV shows, and will compulsively pull his entire head inside his shirt to "get away" from them. And one time I pulled his shirt back down, thinking I was just teasing, and he kind of freaked out at me a little. Which startled me because I hadn't thought it was serious at all.

So it's not just that he does these things in a general way, it's that what this person wrote fits some of his behaviors fairly specifically. And that kind of gave me pause.

Though I think there are far more telling signs of his hyper empathy, like how he compulsively adopts a bit of a person's accent when he's talking to them - even strangers he's talking to for the first time (this one makes me cringe so bad, but I know he isn't really in control of it). Or how he plays back conversations in his head and is so caught in reliving them that he compulsively blurts things to himself - especially when the conversation was an uncomfortable one.

Interestingly, I'd never really pinpointed his thing as an empathy regulation issue, but after reading this person's list of points, I must say that I think empathy regulation may be at the root of quite a few of his quirks and tics and things.

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

Is your dad me? Aaarrghhh

Re: Tumblr cringe

[(Anonymous)]

idk, I feel like the stuffed animal thing is also pretty normal? Just the other day at work, my boss (a perfectly normal, well-adjusted woman in her 50s) accidentally knocked over one of the Easter toys we had on display and said "Whoops, sorry little guy" as she picked it back up and set it upright again. Not a single person batted an eye when she did that.